should I divorce him

[Sondos]

hi all
at first sorry for my bad english, it is not my mother language

I married to a guy, I really love him but he is depend on me in every thing when we arrived to Canada his mam coming to live with us for about 4-6 months in the year, his mam is old and close min. his two sister assaulted on me using bad words and he never stopped them because he doesn't want to lose them
I really be angry and when I try speak with him he always behave like a child go out from home or go to sleep or ..... he never try to face any problem.
his family many time cause many problem between us and many times we speak about divorce and this time he go out from home and till now he didn't come (he left the house before 10 hours) and I want ask you. Is it good idea to divorce him or I should try to stay with him and be stress may be all the time

by the way, I'm enter money to the house more than him andduring his mam staying with us .we should care about her and spend more money for her .his mam many times asked us " send money to my son who is living in another country and we are just new arrived to Canada and we have difficult financial situation "

I need advice so please try to say anything

[tufty]

was it an arranged marriage?
do u have any friends in canada?
what is ur communication with ur husband like?

is he caring and sharing and gentle or is he dominating and forceful and deaf?

can u talk to him about how u feel?

if u stay together u need to be able to tell each other honestly what is going on inside of you without fear of repraisal.

i have deliberately not commented on whether u should divorce or not as its a very very seerious thing to consider and to only be considered after ever other avenue to resolution has been done and failed.

[Sondos]

Actually our married happen after love relation but the situation has been changed after we arrived in Canada, he loves me alot and me also

the problem not between us " the main problem his mam wants to live with us and his two sister also want to leave his mam under our responsiblity only

they don't want to share the responsiblity with us, and I cann't bear his mam living with us for about 7-8 each year and specially his mam has a very close mind

I told him today "I accept your mam staying with us for a maximum 120-130 days and the other two sister should do that also

he should respect our relation "he don't know what he should do
he loves me and loves his mam "

by the way I arrived in Canada before 3 months only and till now I don't have friends but I try to find someone

[sookie6]

The arrangement you are offering with the 2 sisters is very reasonable.

How do the sisters feel about it?

I think you should be firm about this and not back out.

Your partner needs to hear your opinion and take it into account. The fact that you would accept this arrangement with the sisters shows that you are willing to compromise.

It's now his turn to be sensible about this.

I hope this will work out for you; if he disagrees maybe divorce is a bit excessive though (causes for divorce for me are either cheating or lying and I mean you can't resent the guy for loving his mom).

Men on the forum are gonna hate this but they are many ways you can withdraw from the relationship without divorcing.

A man has one mother only but on the other hand he sleeps with his wife not his mother!!!

Do not give up and do not accept anything different from what you want.