You guys probably remember my msgs about how i keep on ignoring my ex in the gym and how even when she try to say hello or goodbye im just turning my head and walking away because she dumped me in a cruel way about 2 months ago, if not go down a bit, it was a pretty controversial thread.
So anyway, i just came back from the gym and im my head is still spining and flying high cuz i cant believe that its happening...
So the day began just like any other day...i woke up all bitter after having another dream about my ex, of course it didnt help to my general function of the day and my concentration level in my science classes in my university was extremely law which got me even more frusturated because for these classes you have to listen to all the details and im usually pretty good at these subject and i really like them, but since the break up my ability to think straight and concentrate went about 50% down.
So after the university, im all tierd, frusturated, still thinking about her all the time decided to go the gym, because it seems to be the only place that can amaizingly take away the stress and take my mind of her (unless she is there, in this case it becomes a really bad place to be at).
So anyway, i went to the gym all and the the same time asking strongly wishing that she would not be there, all i wanted to do is just to relax and to forget about everything.
Anyway, i enter the work out area, look at the sides, just to see that she is not there, and approaching the streching area and start working out with the dumbbels.
In the middle of doing my set, I suddenly saw her best friend looking at me, suddenly my heart started racing and i just put the dumbbel down because i got too nervous and my heart was just racing so i could not continue.
It was my ex's best friend, they always went to the gym together, and actually most of the times we went the 3 of us all together, but it was her best friend.
Her friend and I use to talk a lot when me, my ex and our friend would all go out, and I really liked talking to her , we would always have privet jokes and we always had fun together, but I never got close to her because i knew she was my ex's best friend and my ex is a very jealous person and at the time i really loved my ex and had all the respect in the world for her.
Anyway, I tried to avoid this girl just because of the fact that her sole precense in the gym brought back painful memories of my ex and i could not work out like this.
I was avoiding her for like half an hour or so, but then she approached me herself and started to talk to me.
She asked me how im doing and how i've been, i just kept on telling that everything is just great and i've been dating since then, (even though its a lie, ive been really frustrated and hurt most of the time, and i did not feel like going for dates).
She told me that my ex now lives with the new guy, and they dont see each other as much as they used to see each other when i was still dating her, but they still keep in touch but she kind of feel that my ex is slowly "forgetting" about and spends more time with the new guy in his house (these girls are best friends for the longest time).
So anyway, we started to talk, catch up, laugh just like in the good old days, actually for almost an hour and a half we were standing in a corner and instead of working out we were just talking and making jokes and cracking up really loudly.
towards the end of the conversation she was like "ohh tomorrow is saturday and my friends are all busy so i dont know what im going do, i dont want to sit home"
I dont know why, but i replied "hey lets go go do something crazy and go to Niagra falls in the evening" (niagra falls is a place in canada that has lots of entertainment such as casino and lots of nice stuff)
So she got all excited and said "yess for sure lets do it", and then i jokingly added "should i book a hotel room?"
she just smiled and blushed and then we parted our own ways.
I didnt feel like working out anymore, for the whole time while i was driving home, i was asking myself "what the hell has just happend" "what the hell is going on here" , i dont know my ex trying to set me up or something, it gotta addmit i really enjoyed the whole conversation, laugh is natural remady for bad mood.
I dont even know what to think of that...wahtever happens happens...
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06-02-10, 06:18 AM #1
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wow...i cant believe it...
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06-02-10, 06:25 AM #2
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Approach with caution...just be careful you're not gonna get into a situation where you end up having to see your ex more than you'd like because you're spending time with this new girl. Other than that, go for it! My ex has a friend who I am also very good friends with and who I'd love to hook up with, but we're so firmly in the "friends" territory I know that'll never happen. Oh well, it'd probably be weird anyway...
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06-02-10, 06:30 AM #3
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Nice payback!!
Is it burnin'? Well, f-ck, now you're learnin'.
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06-02-10, 06:33 AM #4
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Donkeykong...yeh thats the biggest mistake a guy can do...end up in the friends zone...i always keep away from it.
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06-02-10, 06:40 AM #5
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Please don't date her to try to hurt your ex, who you obviously still have feelings for. It won't hurt the ex but will end up hurting this assumingly innocent girl. I'm not saying it couldn't work but holy awkwardness at social gatherings.
So, so you think you can tell Heaven from Hell,
blue skies from pain.
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?
And did they get you to trade your heroes for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
And did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage?
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06-02-10, 06:47 AM #6
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QueenofCorona, yeh i was thinking about the same thing for the last hour...it might get awkward in the meetings, but on the other hand, my ex deserves it... u see now that she got this new guy she not only dumped me, but also started to forget about her friends, this girl told me that she feel like my ex forgat about her for this new guy... so I dont know if something will happen between me and this girl....and the my ex will hurt by that...well its her problem... what goes around comes around...
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06-02-10, 06:48 AM #7
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^^ she managed to make you smile when you were having one of your low days, that's got to be a good thing...screw the ex, she is happily shacked up with a new guy..
Go have some fun, but dnt rush into anything heavy, whilst this lady sounds like she may be the key to forgetting the ex....it may end up being a rebound thing, so no stringing her along, be straight with her from get go (assuming you guys decide to start seeing each other that is...)...this might be good for you....
saying all this, consider the other comments too, dating someone as a revenge tactic is not cool.
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06-02-10, 06:51 AM #8
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Bumble bee, i agree with you completely that dating someone as a revenge tactic is not cool at all...but for some reason people say that revenge is always sweet
I honestly wish the worst I could just wish for my ex.
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06-02-10, 06:51 AM #9
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Remain in touch with your emotions. Don't use this new chick as a rebound. Otherwise, enjoy a gal that makes you happy. Screw the ex. However- don't expect her to screw her bff. Realistic.
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06-02-10, 06:53 AM #10
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girl68.... as i said...whatever happens happens...
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06-02-10, 06:58 AM #11
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I do not think she can be 'used' here...she knows the story, as long as he is straight from the get go, ''whatever happens happens'', she is in charge of her own decisions....Blackey, cut the revenge crap....revenge isn't sweet when it is at the expense of others....
make this about you, keeping in mind that this girl too has feelings, and hopefully it will be all good.
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06-02-10, 06:59 AM #12
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Dude. I know she burned you and that was wrong but what is your pay off for hating her so badly? Its not hurting HER by you hating her, its baggage for you. Release it and you'll be a lot happier and healthier. I just pick up on this vibe that you are hell bent on hurting your ex with no regard for anyone else's feelings.
Originally Posted by Blackey
Bumble bee, i agree with you completely that dating someone as a revenge tactic is not cool at all...but for some reason people say that revenge is always sweet
I honestly wish the worst I could just wish for my ex.So, so you think you can tell Heaven from Hell,
blue skies from pain.
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?
And did they get you to trade your heroes for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
And did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage?
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06-02-10, 07:04 AM #13
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That is not what I meant. I mean make sure that "whatever happens, happens" you don't end up screwing yourself and your ex's bff. Do you really want this break up to be harder and messier? Originally Posted by Blackey
IE be careful.
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06-02-10, 07:05 AM #14
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Im not going to hurt this girl, i actually like her she is cool, but as i said regardless if something will happen that will hurt my ex, and she will be hurt, i would not shade a tear for it...and even it might be somewhat pleasent, but as i said whatever happens happens.
