Porn - reality, body types, attraction etc

[pixeldust]

I've found out my boyfriend of 4 and a bit months has been viewing a bit of porn. Not an issue, really, I mean, guys do it, I do it, not an issue.

But the thing is, he has very specific tastes. Teen girls, tiny boobs, slim builds.

I, on the other hand.. well, having a baby a few years ago wasn't kind to me. I'm 28, I'm a D cup (and they ain't perky), and I'm still having trouble shaking the last of the baby weight.

He says he's attracted to me, but I'm not so sure. So I guess my question is, is the type of porn you look at a real indicator of your body preference? Because I'm starting to wonder if he wants me physically at all - especially when there is absolutely no way I can compete with what he is turned on by.

Just curious.

[qwertz]

ummm, maybe better asking in the male section.

Are you sexually active together? do you both enjoy sex?

[Illusional]

ummm.... i can answer this for you... personally i love asian women. i look at asian porn and i love it. however, there are times that i have a desire to look at white, black, or even brown women. it all just depends on my mood. when it comes to your bf, he probably likes a little change from time to time, however, he still loves you. he's honest when he tells you that you're attractive and he desires you, but it's like looking at a menu. there are a lot of items that you'd love to eat, but nothing beats your own personal favorite.

raverboy

[pixeldust]

I dunno, I just kind of figured that since he seems to look at very specifically those things, that was his "type". It's not like that's just one of the things he looks for, it's the ONLY thing. It's making me feel really insecure. Short of losing 20kg and getting my boobs reduced to an A, I couldn't match up, and even then I can't be 18 again.

Sigh.

[pixeldust]

Re the sexual activity, I seem to have more desire than him. Probably 9/10 times I try to initiate something he rejects me. I've all but given up trying to start things and just wait for him to get into the mood, which is rare it seems.

[Charlie Boy II]

are you carrying an extra 20kgs? If so, it sounds like losing some weight would solve a lot of your problems. I don't know if I should say that, but it sounds like it might be true.

[Illusional]

would you care to rub some of that hot flesh all over me?? j.k.

anyways, like i said.. i doubt that he desires anything else. but have you tried talking to him more in depth about it? he might not care to discuss this, but it also won't hurt if you tried losing some of the baby weight during the process. i'll be honest, men are men. we will always look at porn regardless of who we marry. just look at tiger woods. however, most of us are faithful and will never cheat.

raverboy

[Gigabitch]

It makes sense that he would look at something he doesn't already have. If you were slender and had small breasts, he's probably be looking at a website called "Juggz" and that would be making you feel insecure.

If it really bothers you, tell him to keep it more private.

[pixeldust]

are you carrying an extra 20kgs? If so, it sounds like losing some weight would solve a lot of your problems. I don't know if I should say that, but it sounds like it might be true.

Well, if you trust BMI calculators, then yeah. I'm around 66-67kg, 5'3". If I lost 10kg then I'd be average I guess. 20 would take me down to about 100lb's ish. Whether that is physically possible I don't know though. I think I'll make more of an effort, maybe more for me since my self esteem is in the gutter right now

[Enigmos]

OK, terrible, but here goes... I will watch porn to see the gals as well as the guys. When I look at the gals, I don't want to see something similar to me, as I know what I look like. I suppose it's the difference factor.

[TheWizard]

men are eclectic like someone mentioned already. Sometimes I'm into Asians, blacks, bondage, small girls, some BBW, domination (of women), role play, college, MILFs, older woman (like late 30;s early 40's), goth chicks, brunettes, pierced nipples, tattoos, redheads... the list goes on and on and on and on and on... I mean, I think Clerks 2 hits the nail on the head. "What's the point of having the internet if you're not looking at weird kinky sex you're never going to have yourself?"

Don't let it get you down, if he's with you it's for you. If my favorite movie is Dogma (it's not, just first to pop in my head), it doesn't mean I can't enjoy other movies, but my favorite will always be Dogma... bad example but still. Communication is key, and seriously, don't let it get you down.

[Lipp]

Frankly, I think it's just a matter of seeing something that is different, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't like your body type, it's just for variety, watching the same thing over and over probably gets old.

[Illusional]

It makes sense that he would look at something he doesn't already have. If you were slender and had small breasts, he's probably be looking at a website called "Juggz" and that would be making you feel insecure.

If it really bothers you, tell him to keep it more private.

what have YOU been watching lately?

raverboy

[Gigabitch]

what have YOU been watching lately?

raverboy

This site, mostly. It's hottt. Nothing turns me on like heartbroken, confused people.

[Coco]

Men watching porn... something that disgusts me.