Hey there,
I have been going out with my gf for 10 months now. I always get the feeling that she doesn't really love me for me and she always claims to say she truly deeply loves me and that I dont know what true love is only she does cos shes "truly deeply in love with me"...Here are a few discussions/arguements that we have had recently and from the below could you tell me your true opinion if she actually really does love me cos tbh I'm not so sure...
1) I've put on a bit of weight recently and told her I really want to loose it cos it makes me feel crap about myself and I dont like looking or feeling tubby...she replied saying she doesnt want me to loose the weight and wants me to stay the way i am cos its cute and said she'd even leave me if i lost my weight. but i hate being overweight and i've expressed this to her a few times how it makes me feel crap and ugly.
2) She swears at me alot cos i have lied to her a few times. I lied to her cos i have to spend time with my family or want to spend time with my friends and she doesnt let me cos she wants to spend every waking minute with me so she gets angry and jealous and takes her anger out on me.
3) She always tries to change me and says she is improving me and making me better. for example since i have met her she has tried to change the way i dress(she actually buys me what to wear, with my aprroval though), she has made me limit the amount of time i spend with my friends (next to none or once a month), she actually wont let me go out anymore, clubbing or otherwise without her. she wont let me drink anymore, she has asked me to convert religion although not too forcefuly I might add.
4) I have actually tried ending the relationship a few times but she just doesnt let me. It makes me really annoed but at the same I guess she really must love me if she really really doesnt want me to leave her.
5) There are so many occasions when we talk at night or when i meet up with her that its late at night and i want to go to bed that she wont let me cos she wants to spend more time with me or talk to me on the phone longer and it makes me really tired for work and i always end up feeling really tired all the time. then when we get together i am feeling tired and she complains to me that i should wake up a bit and stop acting so tired all the time.
6) She doesnt trust me at all, not even sligthly. This is cos she says she cant get over my past (had about 5 gf's and maybe kissed like 11)...and i've lied to her a few times cos i want to go out and spend time with my family or friends and i know she doesnt like me to do that cos she wants me to spend time with her. I guess cos i'll be moving away soon she wants to spend a lot of time with me.
from the above could you deduce to me whether she actually really loves me or not and whether you think this relationship is worth continuing cos i dont to be honest. I do love her but i always ge the feeling she only cares about herself.
Cheers,
Jag