Erection Problems... Embarassed

[DistantMan]

Hello all, a new member at LoveForum and I come to you with a problem;

I keep losing my erection.

Today was the first day my fiancée tried to give me a handjob. Usually, when I'm with her, I will be erect from start, until finish. From the moment we meet, until the moment she leaves. But, due to our situation, we don't get much time to sexually experiment. And, when we do, I usually pleasure her. It's very natural, and she seems to enjoy it more than anything else in the world, and yet, when it comes to pleasuring me, the second her hand goes near my penis, it begins to fall. If her hands go anywhere else (including balls), it goes up again.

She doesn't seem to mind, I expect she does worry deep down. Although, we were dry-humping all of today, and she knew I was erect the whole time, and yet, when her hands or mouth go down there it goes down.

I think I must be nervous about it. I also know that erections of mine leave easily, and are hard to maintain. I always worry about it. Now I will worry more... Also, when I get erect, I don't usually feel much pleasure unless I grasp very hard, and rub very fast. I actually get more pleasure from other parts of my body unless I grab very hard. Is there something really wrong with me? Should I be worried? I know I am sexually attracted to her, if anything she's the hottest woman I've ever met, and yet, when it comes down to pleasuring me, it turns into a problem. I hate it, how do I fix it? Even masturbation isn't that great...

[JoeyJR]

Do you masterbate a lot? Do you watch porn a lot? Seems like your getting desenzitise?

[aninnocentlife]

i hate to say it but worrying will make it worse. You obviously have a lovely fiance, she doesnt seem to have a problem with whats going on down there for you. I suggest you talk to her about it and explain you dont know whats going on, so she doesnt worry its because of her. hopefully the support from her will be enough to lift your worry and make the problem better. If not, perhaps a trip to the dr is a good idea. erectile dysfunction can be caused by so many things and A LOT of men have trouble with it. the dr will be able to identify the most likely causes for you and treat you accordingly. it could be things like stress, weight, health and even things as small as your diet. dont be scared to seek help! good luck!

[dewilliams2]

i hate to say it but worrying will make it worse. You obviously have a lovely fiance, she doesnt seem to have a problem with whats going on down there for you. I suggest you talk to her about it and explain you dont know whats going on, so she doesnt worry its because of her. hopefully the support from her will be enough to lift your worry and make the problem better. If not, perhaps a trip to the dr is a good idea. erectile dysfunction can be caused by so many things and A LOT of men have trouble with it. the dr will be able to identify the most likely causes for you and treat you accordingly. it could be things like stress, weight, health and even things as small as your diet. dont be scared to seek help! good luck!

This is perfect advice....it sounds to me like its in you head...are you self conscious about anything in that region?...I say that because you say it goes down when she starts to put her hands or mouth on it....if you are self-conscious about that then maybe that is why it goes down...I'm just guessin here.

[Aeradalia]

Have you given sex-bloopers much thought? Sometimes mixing humor with sex can lighten the mood and ease tensions.

Laugh, joke... make funny faces and noises... reminisce about times that were funny or good. Anything to help ease your mind, take away performance anxiety, and remind both of you that you're together for more reasons than just sex.

There's probably nothing wrong with you... your manhood is just obeying your thoughts and emotions -- all too well.

[Chupacabras]

Go to the good doctor, there are lots of meds to help you over this little hurdle. Like my doc said, so long as the problem's maintaining an erection, it's more likely than not stress.

[JamesE]

yo. long time viewer. short time registered user. first time poster.

I have a suggestion for you, I have had this similar problem. It really sucks being in your 20s and thinking you need Viagra or some crap like that.

Here is what I did: I did my research. Started drinking more juices and taking more vitamins (not saying you dont!). And on top of all that, I added in some Ginko Biloba (120 mg). Dont laugh, yeah...its for memory and what not...but what it does: is it increases the blood flow throughout the body...especially that special place.

I had better performance after only a week.

Just a tip. Take it or leave it!

[bloodtippedrose]

step 1: know what turns you on (dirty talk? thigh highs? smooth asses? fat chicks? lesbians? animals? rape? trannys?)

step 2: either exercise your imagination or role play!

It sounds like you dont even know what turns you on :/ you should experiment a little bit.

[mikechudej]

Distant Man,

Deep down there must be some emotional issue with you being touch "down there"! Work that out first.

Maybe you're intimidated by your fiancee look? May be you feel that you won't be able to pleasure her etc.????