Im so confused

[derek123]

I know this girl and i like her, but shes taken although not happy. She said she would so be with me if they broke up, so i thought lets becomes gd friends n see what ahppens if they do break up. Then she says shes in love with another guy i know who isnt her boyfriends infront of me. Iv gotten to know her firends and they say she has these phases. When i see all this i felt like my heart had been stabbed. Now one of her friends is aprently in love with me and the girl i like is flirting ever more with the guyss whos not her bf.

I just dont know what to do....

[Rach]

She's love with another guy who's not you or her boyfriend?

Go for the friend that likes you...if that's the case.

[BeLoved0429]

Couple questions.... How old are you? How long have you liked this girl? and How long has she been with the boyfriend she is with now?

I asked these questions so I can try to help a little better. Is her friend that likes you someone you'd be interested in, or no??

[Frebbiezadyke]

wow she dounds imature but im just saying that from the little information u said

[Jenrick285]

I know this girl and i like her, but shes taken although not happy. She said she would so be with me if they broke up, so i thought lets becomes gd friends n see what ahppens if they do break up. Then she says shes in love with another guy i know who isnt her boyfriends infront of me. Iv gotten to know her firends and they say she has these phases. When i see all this i felt like my heart had been stabbed. Now one of her friends is aprently in love with me and the girl i like is flirting ever more with the guyss whos not her bf.

I just dont know what to do....

Just me but one would have to ask
- If she's unhappy why is she still with said guy.
- If she is in love with another guy, why is she saying she would be with you
- Sounds like she might be trying to figure for herself what she wants from a relationship/a guy.
Perhaps you two are in different places in what you want. Dating vs Relationship?

[derek123]

Ok well the friend who lieks me is a great person but i dont think of them in a way that id want to be with them. Im 16 shes 15. Shes been with her boyfriend about 6 months, i tried to tell her that she really just wants to spice up her relationship but nope she still wants to flirt with this guy. The confusion really lies in the lines of is this just a phase for her, does this guy actually like her (the non bf), the reason i ask the latter is due to the fact the bf and this guy are enemies. He actually says to her he wants her to dump her current bf etc, somthing which seems unfair to me.

[luvtif]

well that answers that. 15-16 year olds can be immature in relationships. just forget about her.

[Frebbiezadyke]

i agree with luvtif

[derek123]

thx guys iv just started college n im so over her "phases", but the other guy aprentlys been tryin for her for about 6 months whiles she bin with her bf n hes bin heartbroken about 3 times so far, poor guy.....

[sfalexi]

College at 16?! Mighty ambitious of you!

Rod Steele

[luvtif]

he likes em young!!

[derek123]

In england we go college at 16

[crEA-tEch]

Sounds to me like she likes the male attention.. she's keeping you around by teling you these things - so she feels even more wanted, by people who arent within her relationship.

She could have issues with her boyfriend, which is pretty evident, so she doesnt feel 100% wanted by him.. and she needs more attention - shes using YOU and the guy she "loves" to get it.

Who's to say shes not saying she loves YOU, to that other guy?

Girls can be weird at that age... I've been through similar experiences...

Good luck,
Nick