Polyamory

[Syph]

Not really Love Advice...

I want to know your views on polyamory, pros and cons of both monogamy and polyamory.

It interests me, as a modern man I am liberal and open to the possibility of having an open relationship.

Cheers,

[Chupacabras]

Listening to one woman's bullshit is plenty for me.

[Miharu]

I suppose this sounds odd, but I love my friends in a platonic way (both male and female) and when I am in a relationship I generally take it up a notch to an Eros style. I have noticed that I do tend to treat my friends a little better materially (ex. Make clothing for them, send nice gifts for birthday and Christmas) as there's no expectation of drama, but I make adjustments above and beyond that level in a romantic relationship once a certain screening period has passed.
However, if you're referring to just having multiple romantic partners at the same time then all I can say is.make sure everyone involved knows what's going on...

[vashti]

If you are gonna do it, do it while you are very young, because once your sexual peak is over (which generally happens before women even start theirs), you will never be able to keep them all satisfied.

[Syph]

If you are gonna do it, do it while you are very young, because once your sexual peak is over (which generally happens before women even start theirs), you will never be able to keep them all satisfied.

How many did you think I was going to have, like 5??? Do you have some first hand experience ?

I would stretch to two maximum, but then again monogamy has it's benefits, albeit limited ones.

[vashti]

How many did you think I was going to have, like 5??? Do you have some first hand experience ?

I would stretch to two maximum, but then again monogamy has it's benefits, albeit limited ones.

If you wait till you are in your 30s-40s, you won't be able to handle even TWO women of that age range. Sorry.

[Peter Pry]

If you wait till you are in your 30s-40s, you won't be able to handle even TWO women of that age range. Sorry.

You're making the assumption that there will be more straight women than men in the relationship.

Poly works wonderfully for me, and Vashti, you have pointed out an important reason why it does work. We are all in our 30s in my house, and when the women in my life have worn me out, they can continue playing with each other. That's pretty much the point. No person can be 100% there for and compatible with another person, so why should we not expect to fill the gap with someone else? Add to that double or triple the love in your life, and I think it's just super swell. YMMV.

Polyamory is not polygamy. Or, at least, it doesn't have to be one person in independent relationships with many unconnected people. Those are the relationships that don't tend to work out. The poly families that survive are the ones where everyone loves and lives with everyone else. There's no reason syph could not have 5 other partners; it's not as if he would singlehandedly have to satisfy them all on his own. In such relationships, the maintenance costs per partner go down with each new compatible partner because there are more lovers available to handle them. And if everyone is at least 90% compatible, then there is a whole lot of overlap in a sextet that goes towards reducing overall maintenance.

I can't think of any benefits of strict monogamy myself, although it appears to work for around 40% of people.

[LailaK]

I'm a selfish bitch. I won't ever make my man share me so I refuse to ever share him.

That being said, I have friends in open relationships and from what I've seen it only works when BOTH parties are actually ok with their SO having sex with other people. In the end it looks more like a FWB deal than an actual relationship. One of my girlfriends who is in an open relationship says that it works because she doesn't love the guy and won't allow any deep feeling for him. All the while she's with him, she's looking for that Mr. Right that she can actually fall in love with.

[Mish]

Diseases, jealousy, envy, miscommunication and a very short longevity are the first things that come up to my mind when I think about Polyamory

[Aeradalia]

Could you make videos and have a side business?

[kuaisudi]

Seriously, I now very confused, I don't know what is love, I don't know what I should do, I now very upset

[Peter Pry]

Diseases

Surely you've heard of "safe sex." It's all the rage these days.

jealousy, envy, miscommunication and a very short longevity are the first things that come up to my mind when I think about Polyamory

None of these things, as we all know, are problems in monogamous relationships.

[Peter Pry]

I'm a selfish bitch. I won't ever make my man share me so I refuse to ever share him.

That being said, I have friends in open relationships and from what I've seen it only works when BOTH parties are actually ok with their SO having sex with other people. In the end it looks more like a FWB deal than an actual relationship. One of my girlfriends who is in an open relationship says that it works because she doesn't love the guy and won't allow any deep feeling for him. All the while she's with him, she's looking for that Mr. Right that she can actually fall in love with.

You are describing swinging, not polyamory.

[vashti]

when the women in my life have worn me out, they can continue playing with each other. .

Eww. Well, that's a scenario I never thought of, to be honest. I suppose I would support polyamory then, but only if it involved two heterosexual men. I'm selfish.

[Mish]

Surely you've heard of "safe sex." It's all the rage these days.

The risks of stds increase sharply with the increase of sexual partners, this is supported by statistics

None of these things, as we all know, are problems in monogamous relationships..

They exist in much milder forms in monogamous relationships in comparison, in Polyamorous they are multiplied by the amount of partners present.