sex made her clingy

[clingy]

so i lost my virginity to my girlfriend a few days ago. we're both 20. she wasnt a virgin before, but i was. she told me about her past relationships with guys and that they all dumped her (3 past boyfriends). i really like this girl so i told her i didn't care about the reasons and she didn't have to tell me. i wish i never said that.

big mistake because i found out why they dumped her.

since we did it, she's been texting me about every hour, calling about 3 times a day, and it's driving me crazy. I thought i would be the one that would end up clingy, but this girl is just starting to annoy me now.

i dont want to be another guy to dump her and i still want to be with her but she has to stop all this texting and calling me stuff.

how can i put it to her in a good way that her clingyness is annoying. **** shes calling me RIGHT NOW.

i regret losing my virginity.

[vashti]

Just be direct, and say "listen, I care about you, but don't talk on the phone this much. I will talk to you tomorrow evening."

She will probably calm down once she feels like you aren't going to run away, now that she's slept with you.

[Junket]

Dude, haha, that sucks!

[QueenofCorona]

She's probably insecure and needs validation that you aren't going to bail on her like the other guys did. Sex can be so much more emotional for girls than guys, might be hard for you to understand that. I agree with Vash though, let her know you miss her/care for her but will talk to her tomorrow/later today/after class, etc

[Cbrider]

Lol, stage 5 clinger.

Listen to Vashti.

[therealjag]

Maybe you should do the same back but ten times more. that way she will know how it feels to be constantly annoyed all the time....maybe i should listen to my own advice cos I get the same from my gf! lol

[Guardian299]

I was pretty clingy with my bf of 3 years at the beggining but i put it down to being an insecure person.
These other men who left your gf have obviously done some emotional damage that means that she needs to constantly be reassured your there and not up to anything etc (which i can empathise with). The way i got over it was firstly having it pointed out to me, though my bf was a bit too direct about it; so just be reassuring of how much you like her and she can trust you, so wont need to call so much, though you love that she cares. Maybe create "call times" so you set a time each night where you will give her a call so you can have a long catch-up of each others day. jus a few thoughts