I'm quite perplex...

[WhatEverItTakes]

I met this girl a few months ago through my best friend and she and I became friends. A few months later, I get kicked out of her home and needs a place to stay for a few months. So being a nice guy, she's been living with me for a month or two. During these months, I've developed a liking for her. I've have never had a girlfriend in my life and she is the closest thing I've ever had to one. We hang out everyday, we go to movies, and we go out to eat and I often pay for her. She tells me everything she can't tell our friends. She often describes the ideal boyfriend she wants, and I am everything she describes, except for maybe the physical appearance(which she finds very important). But I just don't think she likes me the same way. I think I'm, "just a friend". What can I do to be more? Thanks for any help!

[sookie6]

You are on your way to getting hurt if you don't openly talk about the issue ASAP.

If she does not share the same feelings then you can move on past this blurry zone you are in at the moment.

Also why on earth are you paying for her and why is she letting you?

I've got to say this arrangement of her staying with you is not healthy grounds to start a relationship. She might decide to be your gfriend just because it's materially convenient and you don't want that.

She needs to sort herself out, find her own place before you can clearly decide if her affection is genuine.

Also if she does not fancy you now there is nothing else you can do...you are what you are after all and you need to be with someone who finds you attractive...

[WhatEverItTakes]

Yeah, I just wish I wern't so shy! I guess I pay for her because I try to be a gentleman or I'm just to nice. Also, I'm not positive that she dosen't find me attractive, I'm just not to confident in myself whem it comes to that.

[sookie6]

Shy is one thing but you don't want to be that man people take advantage of.

[WhatEverItTakes]

Yeah,I just really don't know what to do...

[sookie6]

Just seat down with her. Tell her you have developped feelings for her and ask her if she feels the same.

See what comes out of this discussion.

Even though you might not get the answer you want it will be healthier for you to get out of this unknown territory.

You also need to cope with rejection (a steep learning curve). We've all been there. Better know now than when you're too deep into her.

[WhatEverItTakes]

Yeah, I'm gonna have to man up sooner or later. I just hope it works out! But I have no idea what to say.

[Gigabitch]

So, what will happen to her if she turns you down? Will she have to move somewhere else because she feels awkward?

[WhatEverItTakes]

I don't even know, I've just never done this befor, I guess I'm kinda nervous.

[WhatEverItTakes]

And also, I think I'm in "The Friend Zone". What do I do in my situation?

[Gigabitch]

Well, how far off the mark are you with regard to physical appearance?

[WhatEverItTakes]

What do you mean?

[sookie6]

I think she means 'did you fell from the ugly tree' or are you attractive...

I think that's what she means but now I am not sure...

[WhatEverItTakes]

Ohh, haha! Well, I'm not really sure I guess. I'm certanly not the best looking person, but I don't think I'm ugly, or atleast I've never been called that. I try to maintain myself, showereveryday, brush my teeth, smell good. But I don't know what she thinks. However a friend once asked her if she found me attractive, she said that "I'm attractive in my own way". But I was right next to her, so maybe she was just being nice.

[Petit Papillon]

Taking a shower and brushing your teeth - that is not what it takes to avoid being ugly lol