Originally Posted by
starbuck
I think it's applaudable that you don't want to string someone along. But how do you really know if it's not working after only 3 dates? Perhaps the guy hasn't really gotten a chance to show you how funny, clever, smart, responsible, etc., he can be. I know that there are some that would disagree with me, but sometimes people can grow on you.
I think because you've been lead on by guys in the past, that maybe you've become a bit severe about trying to make sure you don't do the same to others. I wouldn't worry so much about it. There is no reason to not go on a fourth, fifth or sixth date with a guy who might have potential even if you don't feel the chemistry. Like Coco said, just make sure expectations are met and that he knows you want to take things slowly.
I know that I've very nervous and awkward when it comes to dating and some people need time to come out of their shell a bit. We'd all like to blow them away on the first date and have them head over heels for us, and that's sometimes the problem (trying too hard). I think it's great you don't want to lead them on as well, but it doesn't sound like you are doing that. You aren't being dishonest with them and you aren't telling them how much you care about them. It's hard to know alot about somebody after a few dates so keep an open mind.
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