My GF watches porn, should I be concerned?

[Gigabitch]

we have watched porn together in the past. And when we watched together she would make comments like, "that girl doesn't look like me" - and we would find a porn that had a brunette so it was more like we could imagine it was us. She also never used to want to watch any porn with black people in it, not that we are racist at all, just she never used to. So with me, her porn choices were much different.

So, this time YOU choose the porn, pick a brunette and get some hardcore DP action.

For her: Masterbating / sex lowers sex drive(for the few hours or day that you did it). So she is kind of 'cheating' us out of better sex. She would enjoy it more, and so would I because I would know I was pleasing her more, if she wasn't watching porn/masterbating.

I know from experience as a man, that if I masterbate a lot, say Monday I am really horny, and I end up masterbating 3 times! If I do so, sex monday would SUCK, and last like 5minutes because I wouldn't be able to stay hard because I had already came 3 times today. Tuesday sex would be ok, I would stay hard and sex would be good, but not feel as good as it could. I realize females don't have to get 'hard' during sex, but they must still have the sexual build up, and she is wasting it on porn - I guess that is what bothers me.

So, you don't masturbate any more? Is that what I'm understanding?

[OneQuestion]

So, this time YOU choose the porn, pick a brunette and get some hardcore DP action.

I can't do that. I don't want to watch 2 guys having sex with a girl with my girlfriend. That thought makes me sick. Maybe it is because I was a virgin before I knew her, but I only fantasize about HER. When I watch porn, I watch porn of stuff we have done before, and if anything I imagine doing it with HER. DP is something we can't even do together(well, ok, we kind of have, penis and dildo...) But... Still makes me kind of sick to think about.

So, you don't masturbate any more? Is that what I'm understanding?

I do masterbate at times. I try not to. In fact, I wish I didn't watch porn ever or masterbate ever. To do so, my fiance would have to be willing to please me anytime I was horny(well not anytime, but like at least 5 times a week would work for me. The only times I watch porn or masterbate is when she doesn't seem interested in sex for a few days. Also during her period, in which she is allways like, "I can't do anything this week, so you don't get anythign either"... which is complete bullshit. If she would just give me a couple blowjobs during that week, I would be more happy to please her to my full capability. But yea. Again, I wish I didn't, because I know it makes me not perform as well either, and it makes sex not as good for me. She just isn't willing to please me always. She is a great girl, and does do many things for me, but sometimes I am left horny with nothing.

For her, I am always there, usually too much. One night I licked her for almost 2 hours. The next morning, same thing... And by the way, after I pleased her those 2 times, she hadn't done ANYTHING FOR ME. Finally later that night I started sex, luckily she wanted it, and then I was pleased.. I guess her almost never initiating sex also bugs me. She only initiats after like 5 days of no sex... I am ready after 1 day... Also, anything new in bed we have done, has been MY IDEA... which is weird cus I WAS the virgin before we got together. Anal, toys, everything we have done, I have suggested it. Even to get a blowjob, I have to ask, it is almost never just done. She isn't against pleasing me, but it seems like she never thinks, 'hey, I'm gona rock his world and give him a great blowjob tonight'... nothing like that seems to ever cross her mind. I think I got a little offtopic...

[Gigabitch]

I don't think that's off topic at all. You're dissatisfied with your sex ife and you're worried your girlfriend's porn habit is making things worse. That makes sense to me.

Was the DP with the dildo thing your idea as well?

[OneQuestion]

I don't think that's off topic at all. You're dissatisfied with your sex ife and you're worried your girlfriend's porn habit is making things worse. That makes sense to me.

Was the DP with the dildo thing your idea as well?

Actually no, that was her idea. We were having sex, doggystyle, and she asked me to get a dildo and use it for that purpose. Of course I did, as I do anything sexual she wants. So I guess that one thing she did bring into bed. But the toys I picked out, purchased, and used on her prior, in the same holes they are in now. Just she wanted it while I was in her. But yea.

[dewilliams2]

Bring it in the bedroom? I watch double penetration pornos as well but I DON'T EVEN WANT TO TRY IT!! There are some things that we girls prefer just to fantasize about ...

I meant bring the porn in the bedroom...not the dp...although thats totally their call...I mean to each their own...but I was definitely referring to the porn.

[OneQuestion]

i was also watching porn with one ex-bf and my choices in watching it together or by myself were different!

there is a difference between men and women, that women leave porn in fantasy and men just want to practice it.. (well at least was in my case), so i was careful in choosing, not bringing him to think about things i will not do with him...

Just don't get why she would fantasize about something she will never have(without one being a dildo). Especially when I am willing to do anything, that I can do, for her sexually.

Maybe she's just different... When I watched porn before we had done much together, I watched porn of stuff I wanted to do... like anal, toys, facial, etc.. Things that I dreamed of doing with her, and now have done with her. I guess it bugs me because she is fantasizing about something she can never have with me...

[Gigabitch]

Maybe you should try being more directive with her. DP is kind of submissive- I mean, two guys are having their way with you at the same time. I think she might like it if you bossed her around a bit. God knows you've earned it. Two hours is a long time to lick somebody.

Just don't get why she would fantasize about something she will never have(without one being a dildo). Especially when I am willing to do anything, that I can do, for her sexually.

The way I see it, that's what fantasies are for. If you can actually have it, just do it. If you can't, that's where fantasies come in.

[OneQuestion]

Maybe you should try being more directive with her. DP is kind of submissive- I mean, two guys are having their way with you at the same time. I think she might like it if you bossed her around a bit. God knows you've earned it. Two hours is a long time to lick somebody.

Yeah... she does like it rough sometimes... But sometimes she doesn't like being told what to do in bed. Not so much recently, but in the past, like a couple years ago, if I would say something like, "lick my balls a little" while she was giving me a blowjob. She would get defensive and be like, "let me do what I'm gona do"... I think she just got like offended thinking she wasn't doing good enough and I had to ask her to change her 'style'. So I haven't really told her to do much, but she doesn't do jack shit on her own...

As for licking for 2 hours... that happens all the time... I find that even when I masterbate, I feel bad for masterbating - I got pleasure but didn't include her. Those are the days that when I am not horny for sex I will still want to please her and give her oral. Usually will be like while watching a movie, and last almost the whole movie till I make her cum at the end. I kind of feel obligated to please her because I masterbated. She never does anyhing like this for me, and usually her blowjobs end after 5minutes and sex starts. She needs to become a lot more giving sexually...Not that she doesn't do stuff, I mean from other girls I've read about, my girl is very experimental, just not quite frequent enough or enthused enough to start it and do it on her own without me asking.

The way I see it, that's what fantasies are for. If you can actually have it, just do it. If you can't, that's where fantasies come in.

I guess that makes sense... I guess I am the un-normal... I only fantasize about things I have done or could do with her. I never fantasize about anything or anyone else... Guess I'm just weird then...

[LailaK]

You sound like you're looking for an excuse to go up to your gf and say "Stop masturbating! Stop watching porn! Only pay attention to me!!!" That's whiny baby stuff.

Leave her alone and stop being so dramatic. Sex/pleasure is about your partner but it is also about yourself. Don't deny her the pleasure of enjoying and experimenting with herself. She'll resent you and you will be stifling her sexuality. Let it go. It's not that serious. -_-

[lilly1185]

Maybe she's telling you something. After all, she'd delete it if she didn't want anyone to know right?

Stop by the porn shop, select a nice, long dildo, and go to town!

[urkiddingme]

yo, you should be happy she watches porn, hell watch it with her, whats wrong with you.

just be open about it, it will be much better. im sure there is some kind of porn you like to watch that she might question you about correct?

[misombra]

wow. that deleted post was graphic.

women are not pure. we are dirty little whores.

[RightSaidNed]

i was also watching porn with one ex-bf and my choices in watching it together or by myself were different!

there is a difference between men and women, that women leave porn in fantasy and men just want to practice it.. (well at least was in my case), so i was careful in choosing, not bringing him to think about things i will not do with him...

I disagree with the 'practice' bit. I have a particular kink that I like to watch porn on but would be out right scared of in reality - fortunately, I don't think its actually possible in reality, so its a non-issue....well, more of a non-issue, given I lack a girlfriend.

[lastwish]

It's just entertainment. You can start a great conversation with her about it. You can figure out what she likes by asking her what kind of porn she likes and try it in the bedroom. Of course, if you don't like the idea of a threesome, then don't introduce it to the bedroom.

[OneQuestion]

It's just entertainment. You can start a great conversation with her about it. You can figure out what she likes by asking her what kind of porn she likes and try it in the bedroom. Of course, if you don't like the idea of a threesome, then don't introduce it to the bedroom.

Of course I don't like the idea of a 3some... that is absolutely disgusting!

But I do already know what she likes in bed... she loves anal(perhaps why she watches these), I mean really there isn't much of anything we haven't tried... so not like I am trying to find new things to do with her through the porn she watches. Just concerned me that she was watching DP porn. But I think I am over it, for now.(probably cus her computer has been clean the past 5 days ;p )