ok dont know if this is were i should post this sorry if its in the wrong spot. my wife and i are seperated have been for the past 9 months things get going good and then we hit a wall she says im lieing about things and she cant trust me when i prove to her that i didnt do the things she ask me about its like we are starting over then some thing pops up and theres the wall. i know i have lied to her in the past and have seen a counceler for it and i have been ohnest about every thing cense. how do i keep on moveing forwerd in our relationship when we keep hitting walls. sorry about the spelling not all that good at it.
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25-03-10, 07:24 PM #1
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hi,
Maybe you cant move forward with the relationship, perhaps this is something that will always be brought back up when things are going good.
Perhaps you should both move on, you have made mistakes in the past and sometimes in relationships things really dont get forgotten.
i have a feeling you and her will always fall into this hole.
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Past lies are like cancer, it might go away for awhile but you always worry that it will come back again. Action speaks louder than words so you'll have to just show her you are legit through actions. Its hard to trust again, many people can never fully forgive and move past it as much as they want to out of fear of being hurt again. Tell her and show her why you never want to hurt her again.
So, so you think you can tell Heaven from Hell,
blue skies from pain.
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?
And did they get you to trade your heroes for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
And did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage?
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You saw a counselor about the lying but she didn't. I think you need to go together.
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26-03-10, 12:06 AM #5
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we did go together she says it didnt help her at all i feel it has helped me some it showed me that telling the truth might hurt some times but not as bad as telling a lie.
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26-03-10, 12:14 AM #6
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It's possible she doesn't want to trust you. This takes effort on her part, too. Maybe she feels she gets more from being the injured party than from a healed wound.
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26-03-10, 03:07 AM #7
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maybe thats it she getting the atention from her friends for it. but im still going to try and help my self though this bad or good i hope good. so ill give her the space she needs and do the things i need to do
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