"good girls" vs. "skanks"

[girl68]

Why would I?

I'm sorry I can't tell you that, you'll just have to wait and see once you do lose your V-card.

[the_robot]

Do you want to date her avatar?

hahaha good one.

[the_robot]

I'm sorry I can't tell you that, you'll just have to wait and see once you do lose your V-card.

I really hope that never happens.. and I don't mean loosing V-card

[MissAnn]

So here is my conclusion:

1. Men want variety and something different. If they have American's Sweetheart at home, they want a Nazi porn-star on their couch at work.
2. Men want to feel powerful-they can do this with a woman of lower social standing
3. Men looking for sex outside of the relationship just want sex. They don't have to like, respect, or care for the mistress in the least.

* Once again I know not ALL men are like this, and that many (most) are able to stifle these urges and be loyal, committed husbands and/or fathers.
** And I really, really hope that MOST men would at least have "not a neo-nazi" as a minimum standard.

[girl68]

I really hope that never happens.. and I don't mean loosing V-card

You're not one of those I can only sleep with one person my whole life and I'm going to marry her blah blah blah person though are ya?

[Junket]

I don't want variety...

You'd probably be content with anything right now.

So here is my conclusion:

1. Men want variety and something different. If they have American's Sweetheart at home, they want a Nazi porn-star on their couch at work.
2. Men want to feel powerful-they can do this with a woman of lower social standing
3. Men looking for sex outside of the relationship just want sex. They don't have to like, respect, or care for the mistress in the least.

* Once again I know not ALL men are like this, and that many (most) are able to stifle these urges and be loyal, committed husbands and/or fathers.
** And I really, really hope that MOST men would at least have "not a neo-nazi" as a minimum standard.

I can dig it.

[the_robot]

You're not one of those I can only sleep with one person my whole life and I'm going to marry her blah blah blah person though are ya?

No, but I'd rather not be dependent on a insane drive that makes you want to try other people all the time.

[Mish]

So here is my conclusion:

1. Men want variety and something different. If they have American's Sweetheart at home, they want a Nazi porn-star on their couch at work.
2. Men want to feel powerful-they can do this with a woman of lower social standing
3. Men looking for sex outside of the relationship just want sex. They don't have to like, respect, or care for the mistress in the least.

That's fine as long as you realize that this conclusion is completely wrong.

Check yourself. The moment you start saying all men are this, all women are that when it comes to preferences, it means you're way off track and are under an influence of a bias. The only thing universally similar between men and women is body parts and even that is subject to criticism.

What you should be saying, certain men and women have a preference for this, while certain other men and women have a preference for that, which is subject to change according to personality and circumstance.

[Junket]

Hey man, if I could do lots of women and have a wife at the same time, I totally would.

[girl68]

No, but I'd rather not be dependent on a insane drive that makes you want to try other people all the time.

Then you're about normal. What I meant about samling was not in the extreme form like you want to be the biggest man whore alive. I meant you will probably just want to sleep with more than 1, 2 or 3 women in your day. That's perfectly normal, acceptable and decent.

[the_robot]

Then you're about normal. What I meant about samling was not in the extreme form like you want to be the biggest man whore alive. I meant you will probably just want to sleep with more than 1, 2 or 3 women in your day. That's perfectly normal, acceptable and decent.

I thought you meant I'd have that drive most males do.. it would suck.

[MissAnn]

That's fine as long as you realize that this conclusion is completely wrong.

Check yourself. The moment you start saying all men are this, all women are that when it comes to preferences, it means you're way off track and are under an influence of a bias. The only thing universally similar between men and women is body parts and even that is subject to criticism.

What you should be saying, certain men and women have a preference for this, while certain other men and women have a preference for that, which is subject to change according to personality and circumstance.

You are right, or course. That is why I was clear in saying not all men, or even most men. I was just meaning these could be the motivations for men like my friend's husbands who cheated on them with strippers and prostitutes, and men like Jessie James and Tiger Woods. I definitely agree that this does not apply to ALL men and it is silly to make sweeping conclusions about either gender.

As a woman who doesn't want kids, and who is uncertain about marriage, I certainly get that men/women don't fit stereotypes.

[Mish]

I was just meaning these could be the motivations for men like my friend's husbands who cheated on them with strippers and prostitutes, and men like Jessie James and Tiger Woods.

They could definitely be motivations for some men, no question about it. Though if you replace the word men with women and the word women with men in your conclusion, then it can just as easily be a motivation for some women to do all of the above. So as long as you realize that your conclusion is open to scrutiny depending on subjects and situation you will be fine

[starbuck]

So here is my conclusion:

1. Men want variety and something different. If they have American's Sweetheart at home, they want a Nazi porn-star on their couch at work.
2. Men want to feel powerful-they can do this with a woman of lower social standing
3. Men looking for sex outside of the relationship just want sex. They don't have to like, respect, or care for the mistress in the least.

Personally, I think it's number three. America's Sweetheart types are not going to be throwing themselves at men. It's the promiscuous ones who are.

So if a guy is going to cheat why would he cheat with someone who is going to have to chase? He's going for an easy lay and this is what the "skank" offers. Easy, no-strings sex.

This is just to answer your particular question though as I realize there are many other reasons people cheat.

[SirWagginston]

I think Vinc actually made a good point. When asking why sex sells mostly to women, the obvious answer is that women can get sex easily. But that just begs the question: why can women get sex so easily? Why is it that if a man asks random women for sex, he is not going to get very far, but if a woman asks random men for sex, she will have far more success? I can't think of any reason other than that men are more interested in sex, in general.