"good girls" vs. "skanks"

[Mish]

But that just begs the question: why can women get sex so easily? Why is it that if a man asks random women for sex, he is not going to get very far, but if a woman asks random men for sex, she will have far more success?

Because men don't get pregnant from a stranger if something goes wrong? Men are bigger and stronger than women and don't have to be scared? Men are more prone to relating sex to ego achievement than women?

Something along those lines maybe

[VincenzoG91]

Let's talk actual numbers and stuff. Questions for everybody here:

1. What is your gender?
2. How often do you have sex?
3. How often would you like to have sex?
4. If the answer to #3 above is greater than the answer to #2, what is the problem?

For me, the answers are:

1. Male.
2. A few times a month.
3. Five times a week.
4. My girlfriend is very busy right now, and often tired or stressed out even when she isn't actually working or studying. Things will get better in the summer.

[SirWagginston]

I don't think that counts as a controlled study. If you just Google it, instead, you'll find that the overwhelming body of scientific evidence is in your favor.

[VincenzoG91]

Good point. WebMD had a lot of info and some stats, for example:

[url=http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare]Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?[/url]

" "Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it," Baumeister concludes after reviewing several surveys of men and women. This isn't just true of heterosexuals, he reports: gay men also have higher frequency of sex than lesbians at all stages of the relationship. Men also say they want more sex partners in their lifetime, and are more interested in casual sex."

[the_robot]

" "Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it," Baumeister concludes after reviewing several surveys of men and women. This isn't just true of heterosexuals, he reports: gay men also have higher frequency of sex than lesbians at all stages of the relationship. Men also say they want more sex partners in their lifetime, and are more interested in casual sex."

It's all chemistry, men are programed to be that way because of the hormones and the way they affect the brain.

[Gigabitch]

I asked two guys and got confirmation that if they're going to cheat they want it to be about sex only. They have to be responsible for their wife's feelings all he time at home. The idea of sex without emotional attachment is half the appeal.

[IndiReloaded]

Why are we back to the cheating tho? Focus on the solution, not the problem. Why don't you ask the guys the question:

What characteristics would your wife need to stay faithful to her?

[the_robot]

What characteristics would your wife need to stay faithful to her?

I feel like I'm cheating on a girl who is officially just a friend by just thinking of talking to others. And she isn't exactly a "good girl", so I guess I'd need nothing.

[IndiReloaded]

I feel like I'm cheating on a girl who is officially just a friend by just thinking of talking to others. And she isn't exactly a "good girl", so I guess I'd need nothing.

I'm assuming we are discussing a relationship that actually makes it to marriage. Your post describes an unhealthy mixture of fantasy and doormat. Might want to work on that.

[the_robot]

I'm assuming we are discussing a relationship that actually makes it to marriage. Your post describes an unhealthy mixture of fantasy and doormat. Might want to work on that.

I'm trying.. I just don't get why I feel bad about it, it's not even something "bad".

[MissAnn]

Why are we back to the cheating tho? Focus on the solution, not the problem. Why don't you ask the guys the question:

What characteristics would your wife need to stay faithful to her?

I think that infidelity can be in response to problems in the relationship, or characteristics of someone's partner, but sometimes I just think certain people are prone to cheat. Call it sex addiction if you want, but some people just can't keep it in their pants. I just wish these people would be honest with themselves and their partners and either not get married, or have an open relationship. Traditional, monogamous marriage doesn't work everyone.

[oneandonly]

I think that infidelity can be in response to problems in the relationship, or characteristics of someone's partner, but sometimes I just think certain people are prone to cheat. Call it sex addiction if you want, but some people just can't keep it in their pants. I just wish these people would be honest with themselves and their partners and either not get married, or have an open relationship. Traditional, monogamous marriage doesn't work everyone.

I agree with this.

It really is in line with people's characteristics. I for one would never ever be tempted when I am in a relationship.

On the other hand, my ex knew we were not right for each other. Instead of being honest with his feelings and telling me just that, he pursued other gilrs whilst he's in a relationship with me. It shattered my belief that he was the most honest and decent guy in the World. I guess I was too good for him to let his feelings known. After we broke up, he repeatedly said I was too nice. To this day, I still don't know what exactly that means. Is there such a thing as 'too' nice?

[Incognito]

After we broke up, he repeatedly said I was too nice. To this day, I still don't know what exactly that means. Is there such a thing as 'too' nice?

Only when dealing with people who view niceness as a weakness and who exploit niceness as though it was an actual weakness.

[Gigabitch]

On the other hand, my ex knew we were not right for each other. Instead of being honest with his feelings and telling me just that, he pursued other gilrs whilst he's in a relationship with me. It shattered my belief that he was the most honest and decent guy in the World. I guess I was too good for him to let his feelings known. After we broke up, he repeatedly said I was too nice. To this day, I still don't know what exactly that means. Is there such a thing as 'too' nice?

No. He's justifying terrible behavior, that's all. He's full of crap.

[vashti]

Good point. WebMD had a lot of info and some stats, for example:

[url=http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare]Sex Drive: How Do Men and Women Compare?[/url]

" "Men want sex more often than women at the start of a relationship, in the middle of it, and after many years of it," Baumeister concludes after reviewing several surveys of men and women."

Eh, I don't buy it. the results are skewed by men who can just pop viagra when the mood strikes. There is no equivalent for women, and i know impotency is a big problem for males.
[url=http://www.nytimes.com/1993/12/22/health/study-suggests-high-rate-of-impotence.html?pagewanted=1]Study Suggests High Rate of Impotence - NYTimes.com[/url]

Also, men may WANT sex, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are physically capable of doing it.