In love with someone on the internet?

[eLovesick]

Good people at LoveForum, I come before you with a dillemma. I'd really appreciate some advice.

I’ve had feelings for a guy on the internet for some time now. We are part of an online community for a fringe interest and talk with other regulars on a chat site. I’ve never felt this way about anyone. I’ve had three boyfriends in my life, two of whom I thought I was in love with at the time. But what I felt for them is nothing compared to what I feel for this guy.

There are a couple of problems:
1. We live thousands of miles apart.
2. I am kind of shy of him. He regards me as an intelligent person and seems to like me but despite this I still feel inadequate.
3. As far as I know, he has no idea how I feel about him. I am scared of telling him how I feel as he may not reciprocate. Also, I do not wish to impose myself upon him.

So I guess right now I'm just really confused as to what I should do about this. I think about him all the time and it's affecting other aspects of my life, to the point where I'm neglecting college and friends. Does anyone have any ideas?

Thanks in advance.

[Gigabitch]

The fact that you're neglecting school and friends should be a red flag for you. This isn't love, it's an obsession and it's not healthy. I think you should try to spend some time off of that forum and get some perspective.

[Sonrisa]

i feel you lovesick. what to do, what to do...

[the_robot]

I've been there. Now I would end it before it gets worse...

[eLovesick]

Practically speaking, that may be a good course of action to take Gigabitch. However, I honestly feel that this is much more than mere obsession. He's a really special person to me and I don't think I could ever forget about him if I were to stop coming online. I'm starting to think that I'll never meet anyone as perfect as he is... Thank you for your reply, I appreciate it.

Sonrisa... yes it's shit isn't it

[Sonrisa]

yeah, time will heal all.

[xxazurexx]

Been there, done that and wore the t'shirt and you don't know if he's truly the one for you, or even if you really like him for that matter, until you meet in the flesh...aka the real world.

A 'spark' can be felt online, in the real world it can be very different....

Things like how they walk and eat, mannerisms and habits you cant see online, all come into play and could instantly kill your attraction for someone.

If you are thousands of miles apart and no chance of ever meeting, I wouldn't bother.

[Gigabitch]

That's a good point. For all you know, he's picking his nose and wiping it on the keyboard all day while he's impressing you with his fine internet personality.

I know I am. All day.

[xxazurexx]

that's a good point. For all you know, he's picking his nose and wiping it on the keyboard all day while he's impressing you with his fine internet personality.

I know i am. All day.

lol............

[the_robot]

I know I am. All day.

lol a man did that this evening just in front of me... I was about to call him a pig.

[Jas_mine]

How well can you ever really know anyone over the internet? How well can you ever really know anyone period?

[VincenzoG91]

Which one of you is going to move?

[starbuck]

I'm starting to think that I'll never meet anyone as perfect as he is....

I would challenge this sort of thinking right here. You're enamoured with him, but don't let it cloud your perspective. I'm willing to be he's hardly perfect, and there are alot of better options for you in terms of men that live closer to you.

Do you feel that you're somehow avoiding or afraid of real-world relationships for some reason?