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    would you forgive a cheater?

    As the title asks.

    edit: thats apparently a one off?
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    No, I wouldn't, not under the circumstances I'm in right now. If I were trapped in a loveless, sexless marriage, I'm sure we'd come to some kind of agreement.

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    Nope. When it comes to cheating, you're out on the first strike.

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    I probably wouldn't. If i cheated i wouldn't expect my girl to take me back either. I had many many opportunities to cheat and never did. I don't buy the whole "mistakes happen" and so on. I don't go for girls who drink excessively or do drugs so they can use that as an excuse, therefore if you do something like that, for me i just start thinking you aren't into me as much as i thought.
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    I d definatly could not forgive a cheater..I wouldnt be able to trust him again after that and if theres no trust in a relationship theres no point... If he/she really loved each other cheating wouldnt even be an option or a thought.

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    Depends on the investment. But I would venture to say no. If I had kids with the person, I might brush it off until they are of age to fend for themselves and then its "Seeya lady." If it took 18 years of planning and waiting to do that, then so be it. I'd rather deal with a thief then a liar and CHEATER ARE BOTH! Ditch 'em
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    Qwerty, your new friend turned boyfriend cheated on you?
    ...one can be sure of nothing until it has already happened...

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    cheating is unacceptable. i've been cheated on before and it sucks miserably, i would not want to go through that again. if my bf wasn't feeling me anymore and was having inklings to be with someone else, than i'd much rather him be straight forward about it and break it off with me before doing anything with someone else...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Incognito View Post
    Qwerty, your new friend turned boyfriend cheated on you?
    he slept with his ex. Told me almost straight away. Said he loves me and it was the biggest mistake he has ever made blah blah blah.
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    Forgiveness would be pointless. I would end the relationship immediately, though really it was over when the cheating took place.
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    I do think that some people who cheat can learn from it and never cheat again. But if my heart were really in it I wouldn't be able to forgive, not because I think he'll do it again or because the trust cannot be built again but because I honestly wouldn't be able to "get over it". I'd always think he's was cheating, I'd be insecure, worried, constantly wondering.... etc. It just wouldn't work for me (as the forgiver).

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    I'm sorry to hear that Qwerty, but you stated that you'd just see what happened and have fun while it lasted. Hope you had fun.
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    WTF? You guys are brand-new! Kick his dumb as to the curb.
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    What a loser... If he can't go on without cheating at the beginning of the relationship,he's not worth it. Dump him.
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    I'm really surprised by this. I thought it was you who was unsure about going forward with this relationship and he was all gung-ho.
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