would you forgive a cheater?

[Gigabitch]

Just try to stay away from those people, qwerty. You'll get your balance back.

[qwertz]

I hope you're right, though i feel my annoyance at it slipping. I dont want to forgive him yet!!!!

[Gigabitch]

No, you can forgive him next year, qwerty, not right now.

[vashti]

Don't be a sucker, qwerty. If he was all that much in love with you, especially given that you were only actually dating him for what? a couple of weeks? he shouldn't have been so easily swayed. People should be seduce-proof after so little time. It's after you've been married for a decent length of time and the monotony sets in that the risk should rise.

[bluesummer]

You can forgive, but never forget. I forgive my ex for cheating on me, but I don't want to ever be with him again, because I'll never FORGET how disrespectful, hurtful, and deceiful he was to me. Forgiveness is about letting go of the anger and the hate. Just make sure you don't lump the forgiving and forgetting in together. Always remember what it felt like. It makes the feelings go away easier.

[Mish]

I agree with Vash, the cheating happened way too early into the relationship without what people associate are usual complaints. It was almost as if he knew he had you in his back pocket and thought he could wing it.

[phys251]

The thing on forgiveness is, it isn't the same thing as pardoning. To forgive someone means you don't hold onto it emotionally; to pardon someone (in this sense) means you ignore the misdeed as if it never happened.

Querty, you'll forgive him when you're ready to. Maybe that day comes tomorrow, maybe that day comes next year, maybe it comes decades from now. Time is not perfect at healing wounds, but it can be pretty damn effective.

[JasonG]

You'll never forget what wrongs someone has done to you but at some point you do learn to let go of the pain this person has caused because it's not worth suffering. For some people it takes a long time to reach that point but you will get there one day because you'll realize over time you're sick and tired of being in pain and have to do your best to move on. Every now and then though over time something will remind you of that pain be it a place, memory, object or smell and that pain may return but you will be at a point where you can deal with it alot better and it's easier to let go more quickly.