Do guys care more about what their partner looks like than girls do?

[bloodtippedrose]

Why assume and if someone is really attractive, that they have zero intelligence?

And in the presence of a 'hot' woman, men don't really care whether she may be a bimbo or not. He's more thinking that he'd like to bed her, rather than be thinking "I wonder how intelligent she is".....LOL

You haven't met my boyfriend. He is like me. We're not the kind of people to see someone really hot and immediately think we want to or what it would be like to fu(k them, we're thinking "how good of a time could you honestly have with someone who cannot hold an intelligent conversation?"

And by me assuming seeing someone gorgeous is an airhead is the exact same as you assuming that when guys see a pretty girl they're thinking of sex, stereotyping

[youlf]

You haven't met my boyfriend. He is like me. We're not the kind of people to see someone really hot and immediately think we want to or what it would be like to fu(k them, we're thinking "how good of a time could you honestly have with someone who cannot hold an intelligent conversation?"

And by me assuming seeing someone gorgeous is an airhead is the exact same as you assuming that when guys see a pretty girl they're thinking of sex, stereotyping

Half of the though what xxazurexx says it's true despite stereotypes, or otherwise our entertainment, advertisement, etc and such wouldn't display such 'sex'. I knew statistics pointed out that most guys would bed a woman without a head as long as she had a hot body. And dating advice saying women need to show at least 40% of their body to attract guys. Not sure about your boyfriend, but you better be sure you know what you are saying about him. Maybe you think you know him, but you don't know what's going on in his head. I'm just saying. Or maybe you guys are hot already so anyone else is just lesser degree. lol

As for attractive people looking as unintelligent. I actually see that quite the opposite happening. In fact i have known people to think ugly people are unintelligent.

[bloodtippedrose]

I think there is a huge communication gap here. The way I see it, dw and I were talking about personal stereotyping and we implied to each other that of course there are exceptions. I know not all beautiful people are stupid. Then xxzurexx did not understand our implications to each other and said how wrong it was to assume all pretty people are stupid and then youlf started bringing up why men and woman are attracted to each other or something along those lines...

Dw and I were coming at this from a cognitive viewpoint and you guys came at it from a evolutionary viewpoint and I didn't want to get all technical about the evolutionary side, hip to waist ratios and what have you. Though I am curious about the statistics you found because last time I researched psychosocial behavior I found that the face is the very first thing a man looks at. Maybe Im giving guys way too much credit but I think there is more going on then wanting to have sex with every person they lay their eyes on.

[xxazurexx]

I think there is a huge communication gap here. The way I see it, dw and I were talking about personal stereotyping and we implied to each other that of course there are exceptions. I know not all beautiful people are stupid. Then xxzurexx did not understand our implications to each other and said how wrong it was to assume all pretty people are stupid and then youlf started bringing up why men and woman are attracted to each other or something along those lines...

Dw and I were coming at this from a cognitive viewpoint and you guys came at it from a evolutionary viewpoint and I didn't want to get all technical about the evolutionary side, hip to waist ratios and what have you. Though I am curious about the statistics you found because last time I researched psychosocial behavior I found that the face is the very first thing a man looks at. Maybe Im giving guys way too much credit but I think there is more going on then wanting to have sex with every person they lay their eyes on.

No one said 'every' person.....the ones that visually appeal/or there is a physical assett that appeals, for the majority.
While men will notice the face, he's also noticing how the big or shapely the boobs are, how huge the ass is, how long the legs are, etc,etc. These things visually stimulate men and turn him on (unless he's gay) and will explain why tons and tons of men view and watch porn and why porn is a huge industry. For some men, a woman doesn't need a pretty face, but just needs to have a great set of tits for a man to be able to have sex with her. Which explains why after sex, he can easily walk away from her.....
It was her tits that got his interest, not the face or the person behind the tits.....

So many men are not looking for committment, but they instead prefer the benefits that a relationship brings, ie; FWB situations, one night stands, sex outside of committment and with some 'easy 'woman who thinks the man is in love with her and because he will stick around and have sex with her. When the woman then decides to confront him with the 'talk' and 'where this is going'...the man sometimes distances and because there is nothing other than this 'physical' attraction that makes him want to committ. Most men don't need the 'emotional' to be with a woman, as most women need the 'emotional' to be with a man. When a mans lust fades for the woman and there is nothing else to keep him there....he's outta there.

As men get older though, for a lot there is a desire to actually want to find the right one and committ to a relationship. But in the process, he would still continue to have FWB sex with that woman with the nice shapely arse and until he meets the woman who manages to capture more than just his physical interest in her.....

Which is why women are told in these forums time and time again.....NEVER give up sex too soon or too early and until at least, you know that you and the guy are on the same page and he's not just after sex....

[bloodtippedrose]

It is clear that you have been conditioned into thinking men are only after one thing. You basically said there is no such thing as love and relationships are women-delusions.

From an evolutionary standpoint I agree that men seek woman that have youthful bodies that suggest healthy reproduction.
From an evolutionary standpoint I also agree that men are much less emotionally impacted after one-night stands because they were meant to spread their genetics while woman were meant to nurture.

It is a bit tricky following along with you when you say:

" When a mans lust fades for the woman and there is nothing else to keep him there....he's outta there."

and then you say:

"until at least, you know that you and the guy are on the same page and he's not just after sex...."

Because the first quote and 99% of your post is suggesting that men want woman to have sex with and there is no need for anything emotional. And then the second quote suggests finding the right one, someone he isnt just after sex with, denoting that there is something else there other than sex! youre just not admitting it!! But you know there is because guys wouldnt venture onto this love forum if everything was purely about sex

I see on your profile that you are female so I am curious to know, you must have had some very bad experiences with men. Im assuming, maybe wrongfully I dont know you, that you have been cheated on before

[xxazurexx]

I dont recall saying anywhere, that it is just and solely about SEX...

What I said was, is that the very first time a man will set eyes on a woman that physically appeals, he is thinking SEX.....

What happens after that initial attraction, depends upon a if a guy has any interest other than in shagging her, to want to take it further...

If there is nothing after the initial attraction, he doesn't stick around. If there is, then of course he's gonna stick around....DOH!!

You seem to have totally missed the point of what I was saying.

Anyways, you continue to live in your 'narrow minded cuckoo land' the one in which you think all beautiful women are bimbos and the one in which you think that every man who glances at your ass, must mean he's in love with you and I will continue to live in the 'real' one........uhm, LOL...haha

[bloodtippedrose]

So you HAVE been cheated on before!

[xxazurexx]

^^LOL....decided to stoop to 'personally attacking' eh??

But then that is what people usually do and when they lose control of an argument.

Your avatar suits you 'Ignorance is BLISS'....ahhh How old are you? 16?

Thanked 19 times in 13 of your 935 posts......pretty much says it all, hahaha

[bloodtippedrose]

I wouldn't consider what I said 'personally attacking' in the least. This is more of a personal attack:

Anyways, you continue to live in your 'narrow minded cuckoo land' the one in which you think all beautiful women are bimbos and the one in which you think that every man who glances at your ass, must mean he's in love with you and I will continue to live in the 'real' one........uhm, LOL...haha

Mine was more an assumption I made based on your subconscious negative attitude toward men .
And all my "thanks" disappeared when LF updated layouts, Im 21

[xxazurexx]

I wouldn't consider what I said 'personally attacking' in the least. This is more of a personal attack:



Mine was more an assumption I made based on your subconscious negative attitude toward men .
And all my "thanks" disappeared when LF updated layouts, Im 21

In my opinion you were being personal and when probing for details of my private life, which is none of your business.

The views expressed in this thread, have nothing to do with what I may have encountered in life, but come from reading various articles, books in general on the male psych and having visited internet forums for over 10 years and reading the experiences of others and sharing experiences with others.

21 eh...still young and I'm figuring, a lot to learn.

[bloodtippedrose]

Giving and receiving advice, even if it is for ten years, is not the same as studying the male psyche. I can tell you haven't formally studied it just by how you said this:

In my opinion you were being personal and when probing for details of my private life, which is none of your business.
The views expressed in this thread, have nothing to do with what I may have encountered in life.

You took me saying that you have been cheated on as a personal attack when instead it was a deduction I made from reading the subtleties in not just posts of yours in this thread but in other threads as well. You were subconsciously leaving little hints. Saying that the views you've expressed in this thread have nothing to do with what you've encountered in life is like saying something that a person does or says has nothing to do with what they are thinking. Not to say that Ive studied the male psyche of course, just basic human psychology.

21 eh...still young and I'm figuring, a lot to learn.

A person never stops learning regardless of age

[xxazurexx]

So the fact I may have been cheated on, is down to the Porn industry existing is it? I see. The fact I may have been cheated upon, will explain why men are 'visual' beings, who are turned on and by the visual? Why men will look at a beautiful women and imagine what it would like to be with her 'sexually'....? Because this is what I was basically saying....

I think you need to get over yourself and come to terms with the fact, that while your boyfriend plays along with you and may agree with your idiotic stance that 'all attractive women are dumb',(and then you dare ridicule my posts...lol)... he's more likely to be secretly thinking 'I wouldn't mind giving her one'.....LOL.

Of course, he'd never admit this to you.

Like I said, 21, still young and little life experience...

I have nothing left to say to you.

[bloodtippedrose]

okay Ill stoop to your level.


You HAVE been cheated on and I don't blame him. You are narcissistic and cannot see from anyone else's viewpoints.
And you have no idea what I have and have not experienced. At least I'm not a middle-aged woman wasting ten years on forums because I can't get friends in person. That you've basically told me.


and one other thing. I said about four times that I was stereotyping and making implications about all pretty woman being stupid. I know not all pretty woman are stupid! At least I can admit that I am generalizing a group of people unlike you speaking on behalf of all mankind!
I mean no one knows men better than a woman that cant keep one

[xxazurexx]

okay Ill stoop to your level.


You HAVE been cheated on and I don't blame him. You are narcissistic and cannot see from anyone else's viewpoints.
And you have no idea what I have and have not experienced. At least I'm not a middle-aged woman wasting ten years on forums because I can't get friends in person.

I'm early 30's actually....hardly middle aged.

If I'd had to sit in a forum when I was your age, I'd have hung myself. At the age of 22 I was married with a child on the way. Prior to that, I spent my years from 17 too 22, not sitting in internet forums, but going out into the real world and enjoying myself with friends.

and one other thing. I said about four times that I was stereotyping and making implications about all pretty woman being stupid. I know not all pretty woman are stupid! At least I can admit that I am generalizing a group of people unlike you speaking on behalf of all mankind!

ZZZZzzzz whatever child....

[bloodtippedrose]

Okay you said that you've been posting in forums for ten years and if you're in your early 30's, that means in your early 20's you were on forums! Now you're contradicting yourself.

Also the act of having a child is nothing to be proud of, anyone can do it. I am smart enough to use birth control.
As for marriage, the option for me is open but I think 21 years of age is a little young to make such a big commitment. I don't want to end up regretting it, I take vows a little more seriously than that.

ZZZZzzzz whatever child....

And you still cant admit it