what do i do now? he's gone

[broken.inside]

soo my boyfriend passed away in january. Not long after about a month, i started dating this other guy. I began dating him just to have SOMEONE there since the person i was in love with was gone. I told him in the beginning i would never be able to fall in love with him. However after a few months i started to have some feelings for him. We broke up due to the fact that he thinks i dont care about him. i miss him sooo much and its only been a week.

[Alvy]

What's wrong with remaining as friends? No physical or emotional attachment required. If he expected this to turn into a relationship beyond 'friendship', especially with someone who's trying to get over the death of their partner...then he's an idiot. Go spend more time with your family, they'll support you regardless. This 'boy'' sounds like he just wanted a screw with a vulnerable person.

[sunnybunny8212]

m so sorry to hear that love :[
i agree with Alvy.

its prolly better that you be alone for a little while too.... gather yourself, and over time,
you'll feel strong enough to want to love or be in someone elses arms :]

[cmacattack1]

I can't imagine the type of pain you are going through but having somebody else to fill the void is not the way to go. I appreciate your honesty up front that you would never fall in love with him, but we all entertain this idea that maybe they will change. After all, never is an absolute. And your feelings did change. His patience ran out though and he probably is looking for something that you just can't provide right now. Be on your own and when you are ready, you will find somebody else. Don't bring somebody else into the situation and complicate things further.

It's certainly scary and difficult but you have to learn how to live your life again on your own without him. He cannot be there for you anymore. When you do relearn how to live life again, you will be able to fully give somebody your 100 percent that you otherwise cannot now.

[Mish]

You probably moved on too quickly and haven't given yourself a proper chance to grieve and release all of the bad feelings. I think now is your chance to do it right.