really sucks

[misombra]

can't you wait until after things have settled a bit before you get your stuff? or tell her to pack it up and have a friend get it?

[dewilliams2]

can't you wait until after things have settled a bit before you get your stuff? or tell her to pack it up and have a friend get it?

Nope. I want everything cleaned up and done now. As soon as we are done with this I'm going to delete her number from my phone and I'm truly walking away.

Rip this shit like a band aid you know?...just get it over with.

Plus I'm not really vindictive but I'm vindictive enough that I want it to appear to her that she didn't hurt me and generally I am a very unemotional person so I'm not going to show any feelings just like I didn't yesterday when I found them. It will appear to her as though this is just a routine thing and she meant nothing to me....I'm a cold dick.

[misombra]

how did you catch them having sex? did you walk into her house or something?

[dewilliams2]

how did you catch them having sex? did you walk into her house or something?

Yea as soon as you walk into her apartment you are in the living room and they were in the middle of the floor.

[dewilliams2]

Here is what is going on though...here are a few texts we have exchanged this morning.

Me-I need to know when I can get my stuff...I'd kinda like it today.

Her-Ariana and I had a rough night so sorry if my top priority is not waking up to a shitty text and thinking omg I HAVE to get Dustin his things

Me-I didn't mean it to be shitty...ur taking this far to personally...I'm just tryin to get this over with quickly and easily

Me-I'm being very nice and logical about all of this...I have yet to say anything hurtful to you

And I've yet to hear from her again.

[misombra]

Yea as soon as you walk into her apartment you are in the living room and they were in the middle of the floor.

You just walked into her apartment?

[misombra]

Here is what is going on though...here are a few texts we have exchanged this morning.

Me-I need to know when I can get my stuff...I'd kinda like it today.

Her-Ariana and I had a rough night so sorry if my top priority is not waking up to a shitty text and thinking omg I HAVE to get Dustin his things

Me-I didn't mean it to be shitty...ur taking this far to personally...I'm just tryin to get this over with quickly and easily

Me-I'm being very nice and logical about all of this...I have yet to say anything hurtful to you

And I've yet to hear from her again.

you're not being nice or logical. you're being dramatic and vindictive.

[dewilliams2]

You just walked into her apartment?

Yes I have a key and I live there as much as I live at my place. I considered it my home as well and she would stay at my place just as much....she just wasn't expecting me last night.

[dewilliams2]

you're not being nice or logical. you're being dramatic and vindictive.

She is the one that hurt me. I'm just trying to get this over with so I can move on for my sake. Maybe that is selfish but I don't want to drag this out. She really did hurt me. I don't think its wrong for me to want to get this over with.

I walked in on her having sex with another man and I didn't yell or curse and I have yet to. I have been fair to her. Considering everything I am being exceptionally reasonable. Consider if you found your man with another woman. Do you think you could be as reasonable as I have?

[misombra]

if it were me i would not show up at anybody's house unannounced. were you on the lease? it wouldn't matter if i had the key, i think it's incredibly rude to show up without calling.

so i probably wouldn't have even caught anybody.

i have serious doubts that your motivation is to get your things back and move on. i believe your motivation to get your things back has more to do with being vindictive.

sorry you're hurt. just being honest.

[QueenofCorona]

Sorry mang.

[dewilliams2]

if it were me i would not show up at anybody's house unannounced. were you on the lease? it wouldn't matter if i had the key, i think it's incredibly rude to show up without calling.

so i probably wouldn't have even caught anybody.

i have serious doubts that your motivation is to get your things back and move on. i believe your motivation to get your things back has more to do with being vindictive.

sorry you're hurt. just being honest.

Did you not read my first post? I brought flowers and Chinese food...I was surprising her with flowers and dinner...forgive me for trying to be a romantic guy.

And truly you have misjudged me. I said I'm not that vindictive of a person but I don't want her to see that she hurt me....and I do hope that makes her feel bad. She deserves to feel bad. You act like I did something wrong. I mean good god...should I go over and apologize to her? Maybe do her laundry? I'll polish her car and buy her some nice jewelry while I'm at it. Hell maybe I'll purpose....after all I'm the asshole.

[qwertz]

What does it matter if he is being vidictive, she was ****ing another guy, regardless of whether he should or shouldnt have just walked in. Doesnt make it any less wrong for her to be ****ing another guy just because he shouldnt have walked in...what if he hadnt? she would most likely continue to cheat and hurt him even more in the long run. I think you should get your stuff- at least in the next few days, then cut her out your life.

[misombra]

i never said it was wrong of her to be fuking another guy, i just think bugging her to get his stuff back is not the right thing to be doing. if you're trying to make it look like you don't care, you're not doing a very good job bugging her about it.

[dewilliams2]

Well its how I want to handle it. I want my shit back....I appreciate your advice but when I have a problem I attack it directly and get it over with.

I'd rather walk through broken glass for 5 minutes than gravel for a day....one way or another your gonna get cut...I say just get it over with.