Dissociative identity disorder

[-Valentina-]

I agree with you on many things. One of the specialists I talked to said that maybe the child could create a stronger connection between his main ego and his real life.. but no-one can say anything for sure. I have also thought a lot about what you are saying in the beginning, things did get worse when I got pregnant.. I do think he wanted this baby but of course he is not capable to fully function as a father. I don't want to put our child up for an adoption, it's just my mothers idea.. I think the best option would be to find a good clinic for my boyfriend and until he gets better, raise the baby on my own.

[Kaius]

Now my mother is talking about giving our baby up for adoption. I think it's not an option but what do you think?

Sorry, but maybe adoption is best for the child. Think about whether there is a possibility the baby's life could be ruined by you two.

[-Valentina-]

I do think I am able to raise it on my own if that will be needed - both emotionally and financially..

[vashti]

and i just want to put it out there that dissociative identity disorder is not hereditary. someone might be genetically predisposed to developing it (as in more gifted than another individual in being able to dissociate) BUT only if they grow up in extremely abusive environments. this particular disease strictly develops based off of the type of social environment they grow up in.

There is no medical consensus that this disorder even exists.

[SirWagginston]

You can't actually have two conscious entities in one human body. These multiple personalities are different manifestations of one person: your partner. Genetic predisposition combined with his unfortunate past has made him unable to express himself properly, so his two archetypes are used as outlets.

I'm going to tell you what you don't want to hear. The feelings of both of his identities are genuinely his. If your partner's ego that feels trapped is becoming more powerful, it's because your partner is feeling trapped. Although the continued existence of his "nice" ego shows that he likes you and is excited for the possibilities between you two, the new-found prominence of his "bad" ego shows that he is not ready for the level of commitment your pregnancy demands from him. His disorder necessarily means that he doesn't even understand himself and who he is as a person, so how can he understand and deal with a dependent human being?

I would look at his personality shifts as mood swings with a twist, and I would consider any sexual relations he has with other people to be cheating, plain and simple. Your partner is not one personality bogged down by the presence of another. Both personalities are him, and to love him, you have to love them both.

[IndiReloaded]

LOL, the extent some people will go to screw up their lives. People like you are the reason why I think contraception should be mandatory until you pass an exam to get it removed.

[RdHrshyKss]

There is no medical consensus that this disorder even exists.

good point, that is true. and it has also been found that this type of disorder is predominantly found in the US. but personally, i wouldn't go so far as to say that it is not real, i highly doubt so many people would be able to fake it. studies have been done that show differences in brain function across alters.

what i find very interesting is that almost all individuals who have been diagnosed with this have dealt with some form of continual stress/trauma as a child. it's a young child's way of coping...maybe even a more extreme form of imaginary friends? but that is just my own speculation

[-Valentina-]

good point, that is true. and it has also been found that this type of disorder is predominantly found in the US. but personally, i wouldn't go so far as to say that it is not real, i highly doubt so many people would be able to fake it. studies have been done that show differences in brain function across alters.

It's the first time I hear something like this. If you would have ever met someone with this disorder, you wouldn't dare to say that maybe they are faking it.

[RdHrshyKss]

It's the first time I hear something like this. If you would have ever met someone with this disorder, you wouldn't dare to say that maybe they are faking it.

go here: [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dissociative_identity_disorder#Controversy]Dissociative identity disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia[/url]

has some pretty interesting information regarding the controversy surrounding DID. i shouldn't have said "faking it" because that's not really what i meant. there is no doubt in my mind that these people have a mental illness, but the whole DID thing could be stemmed from psychiatrists trying to get the patient to express themself in ways that they never did before.

[IndiReloaded]

Psychiatrists are second only to lawyers for padding their profession. Most of these 'diagnoses' are iatrogenic (= made up BS). The newest version, DSM-V (the shrinks Bible) is going to be the largest ever, packed full of all sorts of 'new' conditions that somehow sprung up out of nowhere in a mere ~ 60 years. I had no idea biology would evolve new mental illnesses so quickly. Oh, and the panel discussions are happening in secret requiring signing of a non-disclosure agreement--for a 'scientific' document this is unprecedented and shows just how powerful the Big Pharma influences are and how contentious these 'new' diagnoses are. Reasonable physicians understand this is mostly crap.

This 'dissociative disorder' used to be simply binned 'hysteria' and should remain so since the cause and treatment is basically the same: antianxiety meds and b-mod to redirect negative thinking.

That's not to say your boyfriend isn't nuts. He probably is, in which case I agree completely with Vash's advice:

Had you asked for help sooner, I would have advised you against striking up a relationship with someone who is seriously mentally ill.

You must feel really bad about yourself to choose to sacrifice your own healthy life to become a caregiver for a nutcase. Don't you have any goals of your own to work on?

Not saying that caring for someone who becomes mentally ill is bad; if my spouse got sick I am totally committed (ha) to him. LOL... sorry. Anyway, you have a choice tho. I can only presume you are one of these weak-minded girls who try to bring up their own lack of self-esteem by trying to fix someone else's problems. Good luck with that.

[-Valentina-]

go here: [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dissociative_identity_disorder#Controversy]Dissociative identity disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia[/url]

has some pretty interesting information regarding the controversy surrounding DID. i shouldn't have said "faking it" because that's not really what i meant. there is no doubt in my mind that these people have a mental illness, but the whole DID thing could be stemmed from psychiatrists trying to get the patient to express themself in ways that they never did before.

Anyone who resorts to quoting unreferenced wikipedia articles has already lost the argument, in my eyes.

[-Valentina-]

This 'dissociative disorder' used to be simply binned 'hysteria' and should remain so since the cause and treatment is basically the same: antianxiety meds and b-mod to redirect negative thinking.

To compare hysteria to DID would be the same as comparing a river to an ocean...

[hello1]

I'm doing an psychology degree. Some people believe or don't believe multiple personality disorder happen. I have no ideal why you decided to have a baby with this man, because he is ill, mentally ill. He is cheating on you and becoming aggressive. What were you thinking? well the only thing you can do now is leave and hope your absence will bring his real self out more.

[RdHrshyKss]

Anyone who resorts to quoting unreferenced wikipedia articles has already lost the argument, in my eyes.

ummmm...there are links to all the references on the bottom, you must not have really read it.

didn't really think it was an argument though, and you haven't said anything to prove the contrary...

[RdHrshyKss]

i have a degree in both psychology and sociology, and i clearly said that i don't deny he has a mental illness. all i said is that studies have been done to show that there are differences in brain functions across alters which would actually suggest that DID is not completely hocus pocus. and i also mentioned that DID has high diagnosis numbers in the US/North America, which would lead to the conclusion that it might have a lot of sociological factors involved that wouldn't be taken into much consideration from a purely psychological perspective.