advise me please

[maverickxxx78]

Hi,

My name is E and I need some advise. Back in 2007 I met a girl online and I went overseas to help her move to the USA. She had an MD degree and was a very good candidate to be a wife in the future. She had so many things to offer artistically and professionally. When I got there, I met the mistake of sleeping with her the same day we met at the airport. I said mistake because after that, I didnt know if she was moving to USA because of me or because she did want to validate her medical degree and work in America. She came first and i test her by saying that I was going to marry someone else and she said that it wont matter she still was going to come since my parents talk with her on the phone and they got really impressed and fell in love with her as a potential for me or my brother. I came back and I went into a big depression and she helped me cope with it and at the same time we came to be romantic and we decided to start dating and we lived to together in the basement of my parents house. Things were very well until she discovered emails from girls that I met in Colombia and that were interested in me. She got so jealous that she made me erase all my contacts from facebook that had anything to do with them and they were deleted also. She then discovered secret conversations I had in the past in chats and she became very paranoid of every single person that called or email me. She installed a spy software and also found all kind of porn (nothing illegal) and also a few tapes I made with friends in my vacations and they were naked. She said that she got traumatized and went to see a counselor and she was diagnosed with post traumatic disorder and started to take medication. I myself take medication for bipolar depression but is so under control it was hardly a problem in our relationship. She seemed to have way more problems than me since she had traumas of her parents divorcing due to infidelity and such. She still could not let go of the past and she kept and kept bringing my videos from the past almost daily in our conversations, she kept also naming the girls and she investigated more and more all of them to the point of knowing way too much and impersonating me in chats with them. I put up with all that since she still had a lot of cuteness in her way she treated me and I started to fell in love with the way she babied me all the time. Her visa was about to expire and I decided to marry her so that she could stay and then once everything evolves I would take her to church and marry her. She accepted and we went thru court and INS and she got her green card and all of that. She started working as a medical assistant and started to make money and she started to change a bit. I was unemployed and living with my parents and she felt like she was supporting me since she always paid when we went out. She didn't pay a dime at my house though and my parents help her also to ger a car since she didnt have a any credit history. Once she started to make money and have some more independence she started to go to a pentecostal church she used to go in our country and she received something called prophesy once someone imposed hand on her head. That person told her that I wasnt them man for her without even knowing me and she believed it. She started to treat me badly at times, even in front of my parents, she started to say and say that didnt believe I was going to be the dad to her kids and stuff like that.

One night she went to church and I said that I wanted to go too and I went. I didnt like it and then another night the preacher was having a party and she got invited to play the violin. I said I could go and she said no because it was only for church members. I said fine, when she came back she was as nice as usual and I pretend to be asleep and she kissed me in the back of head and told me that she loved me. Next day I woke up and I told her that I love her too and that I wanted to take the opportunity that his dad was coming to the USA to get engaged. Once I said that she started to cry and said that she didnt want to marry me and she started to say that I needed a slave and bad things. I left and she picked me up later and she said that she was going to buy some stuff but didn't wanted to take me. (buying home appliances) she told me that she was gonna have to marry me and I said "you don't have to" she said that she didnt have no choice but to go thru it since there were papers in INS. I said why are you with me all this time and be nice to me and don't want to marry me? i asked her if it was because of her not paying rent and she replied that as soon she could she was going to get "hell" out the house. Then I asked for the green card process and she said that she was going to throw to my face, I said no you wont dare to live like that and she said "are you daring me that I am not to?" and I said yes I date you, and she packed all her clothes and came with the green card in her hand bending it. I said, dont hurt yourself! let me get some scissors and I went to the kitchen and came with scissors. She put the green card out and said break ir if your man enough, and I was going to break it but she said, no! this is the price for all the bad that I had to put up with all this time with you and your sexual deviations and your girls (something that happened in the past) and I took the card and broke it in 4 pieces. When she saw me doing that, she grabbed the same scissors and put them in my neck saying - why did you do that, you going to pay for this. And then she dropped the scissors and fake an asthma attacked and my parents had to call 911 for help. That same night the came back from the hospital packed her stuff and went away. Next day I called her saying that she broke my heart once she put those scissors in my neck and she replied saying that why did i broke her green card.

Now she told my parents that she didnt want anything to do with me, that she hated me and that she was going to sign papers for divorce.

Since then I haven't talk to her and I feel so lonely cause she was my only companion. I have no friends, just my parents and it wasn't because of them I would probably be in a mental hospital due to my depression. She was so nice at the beginning, she said nobody would ever love me like her.

PLEASE ADVISE, do you guys will take her back or let her go?

[legend]

I advise you to try to get her back but you have to stop doing what you have done in the past and try as possible as you can to keep her away from your black past history.

[Cloud206]

Anyone who feels the urge to actually kill u ,for whatever reason is not completly sane,let her go dude.

[aatayyab]

The fact that you are asking this question, and in that detail via so many grammatical mistakes. You are just in love with her. And it is perfectly alright to be in love. However, are you sure you can take all that beating and still love her? This question can only be answered by your own self. Cause there are many abusive relationships which actually kill each other but can't even think of a life without each other.