Alone Forever?

[Discovery]

Well this girl is officially gone from my high school. Never made a move. Never built a foundation with her. I'm feeling as though depression may be following me around a lot this summer. I can't say this isn't my fault because it is. I don't know what In the world i'm going to do. I know you all have heard this before. It's a "typical" teenage depressive letter. I'm just wondering, If I can like this girl SO much and think she is the only girl i would ever want in my life, tell me how I will ever be able to be with anyone I like if i don't have the courage to take a risk thats worth taking. Where do i go from here, because i'm honestly lost. Also why am i feeling so depressed if i never made a worthwhile connection with her?

[VincenzoG91]

You will get better at this, if you make an effort. Sometimes you will slip up and say or do the wrong thing, and you will learn from the experience. Also, you will meet other women, so there will be other chances. I never went on a single date until college, and I never had a serious girlfriend before I turned 30. I was a little shy, and I had some acne, and I allowed those things to hold me back too long until I finally changed my attitude. Then I dated like crazy for several years before I was mature enough to handle a serious relationship. I learned everything the hard way and wasted years in the process, but you can do better than that. Believe in yourself and become confident. Learn assertive communication. Know who you are, what you stand for, and what you want, then work for it.

[allsmiles]

Believe in yourself and become confident. Learn assertive communication. Know who you are, what you stand for, and what you want, then work for it.

I agree...it boils down to being comfortable with yourself. Its taken me years to develop self-esteem. Just start talking to more girls even if you aren't interested in dating them so that you get comfortable. When opportunity strikes to talk with the girl of your dreams you will be ready.

[nihao]

You will get better at this, if you make an effort. Sometimes you will slip up and say or do the wrong thing, and you will learn from the experience. Also, you will meet other women, so there will be other chances. I never went on a single date until college, and I never had a serious girlfriend before I turned 30. I was a little shy, and I had some acne, and I allowed those things to hold me back too long until I finally changed my attitude. Then I dated like crazy for several years before I was mature enough to handle a serious relationship. I learned everything the hard way and wasted years in the process, but you can do better than that. Believe in yourself and become confident. Learn assertive communication. Know who you are, what you stand for, and what you want, then work for it.

That's pure gold, 100% true.

When you feel afraid or nervous to talk to a new girl, just consider this: What have you got to lose? If it doesn't work out, at least you tried, and there's always the real chance that it will work out. I've been a very shy person my whole life, and lost out on a lot of potential dates because I never had to courage to go after what I wanted. I finally said enough is enough, and just started talking to any girl I met. Just keep at it, and remember, you have nothing to lose by just going for it.

[Mish]

tell me how I will ever be able to be with anyone I like if i don't have the courage to take a risk thats worth taking.

You'll find out later on that some risks are not worth taking at all, maybe it was a good thing you didn't make a move, it could've been an even more painful rejection and you would've been in more pain right now. What should inspire you out of this is that most people have to deal with these issues especially when they are young, so you are not alone. With time you will forget about her and there will be a lot more opportunities open for you, don't forget it and be more prepared for the next one that comes along.