Hi. So here's the problem. I have a girlfriend, but technically, under her mother's rules, she's not allowed to have a girlfriend. I'm 17, she's 16. I'm going off to college in the upcoming fall, while she'll be a junior in high school. Last summer, we got involved in a relationship, and it was held in secret, until we were found out in November by her mother. She proceeded to cut off all communications between us, even though that didn't stop our friendship or our love. From December til about May, we remained friends, even though occasional flirting did happen between us. Now in June, our love has blossomed once again, and we really like each other. However, her mother is determined to stop us at all costs. The situation is, I was chatting her on Facebook, and on Facebook, she's listed as my sister. So I was joking around and said, "I love you baby. Are we in a incestuous relationship now? " Little did I know, her mother was standing behind her. Now, her mom's upset at us. Is it right for her to be involved in her daughter's choice of relationships? Her mother and her father are divorced, and that might have something to do with it. Her father was never really a father figure in her life, but the thing is, her whole family loves me except for the mother. Her father, who I've met occasionally really likes me, and her two younger brothers always have fun with me. The only suspicious person is her mother, who constantly tries to break apart our love. Last year, she claimed she broke off our relationship because she wanted Grace to focus on school. However, even though we "dated" for the first term of that year, she still maintained a straight A+ average. Yeah, that's right an A+ in all her classes. And her mother claims that I was distracting her from her school work. Now, she's complaining that she doesn't want Grace to make the same choices she did. She wants my girlfriend to find someone who will respect her, help her, sacrifice for her, someone who will always be there for her, and someone who treats her well. My case is that I do all those things for her...and more. Grace doesn't complain about me, she loves me, and I love her. Is it right for her mother to continually break us up like this? Her mom did say that once she turned 18, she would be allowed to make her own decisions, but until then, she was under her responsibility and she, as a mother, had the right to make all Grace's decisions when it came down to relationships for her. Is her mother right in this case, or is she being overprotective? Is her mother allowed to make Grace's decisions for her, disregarding the fact that we're in love? What should I do in this scenario? How do I respond? I'm leaving for college in 3 months, and I was really looking forward to spending time this summer with my best friend. Is this my fault? We both really wanna get together this summer but unfortunately, her mother won't allow it. What should we (I) do? Please help?