Wife pissing me off.

[Regnent]

Post null and void.

[doppelgaenger]

Have you ever heard of something called cunnilingus?

[TheTooya]

cunnilingus?

A cunning linguist? Yea they are cool bros, I'm pretty bad at English, so I try to hang out with them.

[vashti]

Your wife is being kind. Women who orgasm like sex.

On the other hand, the fear of having baby number 8 would put a damper on MY sex drive.

[Taleena]

Hi, she sounds exactly like me so maybe I can help a little.

I also am completely not interested in sex anymore. With 7 kids you probably don't have alot of time for yourselves if any at all. She probably feels alot of pressure from you if you bring it up alot. I know it's that way for me and it only make me more uninterested. Try romancing her more? I know for me I feel like my partner is so occupied with work and his own life that he doesn't pay enough attention to me and it makes me not want to be intimate with her. She probably knows that you expect it so being nice to her once is probably going to make her think you are doing it to get sex so maybe back down until she thinks that that isn't your intention. Does she have poor self esteem? Maybe make sure you tell her once a day that she looks really nice, or ask her if she styled her hair different- it will make her feel like you are paying attention to her. After a couple days maybe more of this start trying to be more intimate but starting with soft things like backrubs and massages and see what happens and if it does lead to sex make sure you put alot of focus on her if she seems to want it.

Sorry if none of this helps and you have already tried all this.

[l337acc]

At this point I think masturbation is in your very near future.. Maybe even abstain from getting intimate -- would seem out of the ordinary and she would want to know whats up. Sounds like the passion isn't there anymore. I for one wouldn't want to f*** a corpse when I can jerk off without wasting someone elses time <-- and thats what I would tell her

[doppelgaenger]

Have you ever thought about getting the tubes tied?

[Taleena]

Your wife is being kind. Women who orgasm like sex.

This is true. This is how I lost interest in having sex.

[TheTooya]

Better yet, plan a vacation, plan something just for the two of you, so that you can put all the stress and worry behind you for a bit?

[doppelgaenger]

Men who orgasm like sex, too!

[chairman55]

Your wife is being kind. Women who orgasm like sex.

That is not completely true. My wife also lacks much interest in sex but I always make sure she gets her big O. In fact, I try to give her more but once she's had her one, she's done. She has a higher orgasm rate than I do yet I have a much higher sex drive.

Some women just have lower sex drives, especially when you factor in age, family and job responsibilities. It justs sucks for the guys who have sex drives, or more importantly, for guys who want intimacy with their loved ones.

[Mish]

7 kids? Could this be a Religious thing? In the past we've had a few women in these forums who believed that sex was only for procreation.

[lahnnabell]

Well, the fact that she refers to sex in such black and white terms and fails to communicate her specific needs and wants is very frustrating. You said she never used to be like this... So, what did you do for her before that worked? Or was she just up for it all the time regardless?

If you feel that you suck at oral sex, I highly recommend getting some education. I was sitting in Barnes & Noble the other day, flipping through some sex books and I found a good one. Called "The Art of Oral Sex".

It has great visuals and really good firsthand accounts of women who enjoy receiving.

Are are you so resigned on this front that you really don't care anymore?

[Junket]

Sometimes I wish both parties were present so that we could properly address the issues, because you sure as hell aren't going to solve them by yourself.

[vashti]

You've been together 14 years, and it is just now becoming important that you find out how to make her orgasm? Because she's finally had enough?

uh.... yeah.