Performance anxiety

[nry]

Posting this on here as I just don't know what to do anymore! Sorry if how I explain this sounds terrible or could be phrased better.

In my 20s still a virgin and been with this girl for a few months now, tried to have sex a many times now but it either dosent work at all or will only be like half up. We can do other stuff but never actually go all the way.

Now I know it works just fine on my own, so not an issue.
Been to the doctors about this and was just given some viagra which I haven't taken and didn't really want to. She dosent think I should need to either!

Basically anyone got any advice on this situation? As its driving me nuts and only going to end up splitting us up!

[l337acc]

Sounds like because your a virgin you are extremely nervous and shy about taking your pee pee out. You need to relax and get comfortable! Also you are probably having anxiety about premature ejaculation, if thats the case just do some penis exercises like work on the PC muscle so you would be in more control of your orgasms

[nry]

Not too sure about the pre mature thing, as when doing other stuff can't really say I have had a problem with that.

I feel comfortable around her, we can easily talk about this issue too, but I know its really starting to put a strain on the relationship!

[l337acc]

In any case, I think the problem is purely psychological

If you don't have any problems in other areas, it could be that you're scared of getting her pregnant

[nry]

I agree that it is all psycological. As like I said works fine on my own.

Thing is how do I get over this?

[vashti]

take the viagra initially, and stop using it once you get a feel for how it's supposed to work and your anxiety is gone.

[doppelgaenger]

If you didn't care about whether or not she gets off, and only care about what a voluptuous, hot ass you're going to be pounding, you'll get it up and it will stay up so long that you could hang a flag on it.

[DoubleEight]

I have a friend who is a virgin, and the one time he got 'right there' with his ex GF, he just couldn't get it up.

He got some over the counter anti-anxiety pills and it cleared the problem right up next time he was 'right there.' Didn't stop them from getting interrupted, but it still got him functioning.

[nry]

I would really like to get over this by not using tablets. Can't stand filling my body with crap really.
She wont let me take any viagra, dont really want to take it without her knowing. She would probably be able to tell too

[Charlie Boy II]

just take the viagra, I don't really understand what your opposition is to it. It's absolutely guaranteed to work, you can use it to get your confidence up and then you can throw them in the bin.

[xcz]

Once you get past the first couple times, you'll be fine. Take the blue pill.

[Regnent]

Dose up on the viagra, and get it over it.
You're anxiety won't cure it self, take the plunge and go from there.
You're stressing yourself out over something you have complete control over.

[nry]

Well she left me, said she dosent feel the same about me anymore. And that the problem isnt the reason.
Oh well life must go on!

[Charlie Boy II]

next time take the pill