How to share dating expenses?

**Boy** · 19-07-10, 03:47 AM

Hi,

I decided to talk to my girlfriend about the dating expenses issue.

I was wondering how should the dating expenses be shared.

Shall we pay 50/50 each time we order something? (I must admit that it doesn't sound too well).
Should we decide that each time someone else would pay for the order? (What scares me about it is having to remind the other person that you were the one who paid last time).

I'm totally new to it, so I'd appreciate your suggestions.
For some reason, I feel like it would be harder to change later the "rules" we set now, and it kind of bugs me that I feel that way, as we should be feeling comfortable talking about stuff.

Thanks a lot.

**girl68** · 19-07-10, 06:12 AM

I share expenses proportionately. He makes 3 times as much as me, he pays 3 times as much as me. If it were equal it would be 50/50.

**Charlie Boy II** · 19-07-10, 06:42 AM

^^^^

i.e. he pays for everything.

**Mish** · 19-07-10, 08:01 AM

I recommend paying for everything in the beginning and then shifting to a more balanced approach later on when the relationship is established

**hurt_confuzd** · 19-07-10, 08:14 AM

If you feel like inviting her to dinner, then it's only common courtesy for you to pay for her.

If she initiates the date, then she should pay for you.

If she never initiates the date, fuçk her and never talk to her again, KZ style.

**Boy** · 19-07-10, 03:17 PM

Hi fellows.

The story goes like this.
It's been almost 2 months since we started dating.
Up until now, I paid for everything.

Now, I'd like her to also pay for things.
My plan was that if we go to a restaurant/ a coffee shop / a pub / etc. or order tickets for the movies / shows / etc. then we would split fifty fifty.
However, if we just stop at some store to buy soft drinks, you know, just pay and leave, then I'd be happy to pay for both of us.

I must say that she currently doesn't work, so I earn more than her.

What do you think of this plan?

Moreover, it's just hard for me to imagine how it's done.
Like, you're sitting in a coffee shop, the waiter puts the bill on the table, which resulted in 8$ (say 9$ including tip).
What now?
You're both taking 4-5$ out of your wallet?

I appreciate your sharing, thanks.

**qwertz** · 19-07-10, 06:46 PM

Share 50/50, unless he specifically insists on going somewhere expensive!

It wouldnt feel right to me to not share the bill.

**mytarun** · 19-07-10, 10:30 PM

It sounds reasonable that people split expenses on the first date but it rarely happens. Here's why. Whoever makes the invitation gets to pay for the entire date. An exception would be if it is mutually agreed upon before the date that expenses would be split. However this is generally does not happen before the first date. It's usually one person who makes the first move and asks someone out on a date. If that's you, you're responsible for all the expenses regardless of your gender