sex and speaking?

[jessZ]

You should only do what you feel comfortable with, and I think it's kind of harsh of him to pressure you a bit. I mean, it's great to communicate and maybe he just wants to know you're enjoying it, but everybody is different and if you're not loud during sex then you're just not and that's ok.

[xxazurexx]

I agree. ^

And if she's doing anything other than what she is comfortable with, then she's putting on an act and to keep him happy.

[hurt_confuzd]

Try farting during sex.

[dewilliams2]

Try farting during sex.

I laughed for weeks!...guess I just poked it outta her.

[Charlie Boy II]

I actually remember when I was about 21 I was dating an older women who wanted me to talk dirty during sex. I just had no f-cking idea what I was supposed to say

[Junket]

I actually remember when I was about 21 I was dating an older women who wanted me to talk dirty during sex. I just had no f-cking idea what I was supposed to say

If you need to put any thought into it, then you shouldn't even bother.

I feel cheesy trying to verbalize all those cliche things.

[dewilliams2]

I actually remember when I was about 21 I was dating an older women who wanted me to talk dirty during sex. I just had no f-cking idea what I was supposed to say

Whatever comes out naturally is what you should say, don't think about it. Although I do worry that sometimes what comes out of my mouth will get me into trouble. I don't know that all women like what I have to say during sex....its not things I would actually say to them or even mean if I wasn't in the moment.

[Charlie Boy II]

I said when I was 21. I'm 27, I know how to talk dirty.

[xxazurexx]

I have to say, that one thing I hate is a 'quiet' guy. One who doesn't even make a murmur....lol. It makes me wonder and whether he is enjoying himself or not, or that I'm not doing something right. My last ex was like this. I mean I don't expect him to be porno explicit, but a noise might be nice.

[Kayla]

I have a guy friend who also happens to be an extremely annoying hypochondriac. He is a "one night stand" non-committing sort of guy. Anyway, he told me that one night he was out and ended up talking this girl home. He finds out during this processes that she is a pharmacist and he tells me they actually discussed the side effects of his medication during sex. HAHA~ I told him I bet that girl went home and laughed about him and told all her friends about the "weirdo" she went home with. The sad thing is, I know him enough to believe the story.

[EnjoyingLife]

You can only be yourself during sex as long as you show him whether or not you're enjoying it! Guys need to know if you're enjoying it. Try telling him the things you like such as "that feels nice there", "let's try this". I know you're new to this as you said so just experiment. When you first become sexually active sex is all about experimenting until you find what you both like. Have fun and don't be afraid to moan if it feels good!

[vashti]

It makes me wonder and whether he is enjoying himself or not, or that I'm not doing something right.

Wow, I feel self-centered now. I have to say I have never actually wondered that until (maybe) afterwards. During the moment, I don't really think about him at all. lol

[poathomson]

Thanks for the advice, I think he finds it odd that i am quiet during sex because all the other time I am outgoing and outspoken. One other reason I am quiet is because I like to hear him make his noises that show he is enjoying himself, it well make me even more excited. But he isnt forcing me into anything, I do not let my men push me around .

[Yourtoy]

I can not speek for all men, however, I love it when the women tell me what to do. Maybe he is asking you to be more asertive? Give it a try.

[60mm]

Guys like to hear things that either let them know we're doing a good job or hints/commands on what would make our work more appreciated. If I were you start off with just giving little hints at what you'd like, no need to be explicit or loud at first. "Slower", "deeper", "that's good", etc. Once you're comfortable with that you may find yourself saying other things, who knows.