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    He won't dance?

    My friend is getting married next year and I would like to take my boyfriend. The thing is though he refuses to slow dance with me if he goes. It really upsets me cause what am i suppose to do? Just sit there with him and envy all the other couples dancing?

    And what if another one of my friends get married in the future and he still refuses to dance or even attend the wedding? Am I in the wrong to be upset about this?

    I'm afraid that he wouldn't even dance at his own wedding.


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    He probably SUX at dancing. Is this really a THAT big of a deal? It's not like its your wedding. Maybe its a girl thing, but I'd hope you can easily get over the fact that he's not comfortable dancing in front of people. If it's that important to you though, maybe you two can attend some dance classes together, help build his confidence a bit.

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    Try slow dancing with him in private, with just the two of you and some soft music. He won't enjoy it as much as sex, but he still might like it. Then take him someplace where other people are slow dancing in public. Maybe he will get the idea that he is missing out on something good.
    Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.

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    I know that on this forum I am the ONLY one who thinks not dancing IS a deal breaker- so I say no, you're not wrong. But know that the majority will say that you are. There must be a reason he doesn't want to dance and it very well could be he sucks at it though slow dancing isn't even dancing (IMO- it's stepping right, left, right, left)

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    My g/f loves dancing.

    I must say, the appeal of actually being good at dancing as increased as I've gotten older.

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    I think people need to learn to get over doing things that may make them look slightly foolish. The greater good here is his girlfriend's happiness. Then again, he's probably unaware that his not slow dancing is bothering her this much. So, she'll either let it go and silently resent him for it, or she'll say something and he'll huff and puff about it like a big baby.

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    It personally wouldn't be that big a deal for me.

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