My family doesnt like my girlfriend

[Boy]

Hi,

I'm dating my girlfriend for 2 months.

My brother doesn't like the way she looks, and my mother doesn't like the fact that my girlfriend neither studies nor works.

It bothers me a bit.

I can't say that I like that fact of her not working nor studying, but she does have the intentions of doing so.

How can I deal with my family about that matter?
It would have been nicer to hear positive things from them about this relationship.

Thanks.

[Mish]

I think your brother not liking how your gf looks is not a big deal. It doesn't really matter if he finds her attractive or not, he's not the one dating her.

Your mum not liking her on the other hand is concerning. You should find a way to change that if a good relationship is important to you. Has she met your gf? How old are both of you?

[girl68]

They think she's not good enough- based on the not work no studying, I would to. She has to get her act together.

Tell your brother to piss off.

[adam95]

if she plans on going back to study or work then tell your mom that. tell your mom to just give it some time and she'll see.
how old are you guys anyway?

[xxazurexx]

Your mum is just thinking about you and likely is worried that you are going to end up with some 'freeloader' who will sponge off you for the rest of your life.

As for your brother, why should his opinion matter?

[Gigabitch]

I'm not a big fan of intentions. Is she actually doing anything to make this happen? I can see why your mom might be concerned that she's bone-idle if it's been a long time without any sign of change.

Your brother, though, is just a little putz and should keep his opinions to himself.

[hurt_confuzd]

I wouldn't be overly concerned about whether or not your girlfriend lives up to your mother's standards. She's not the one dating her.

Your brother, on the other hand, has a legitimate point. Why doesn't he find her attractive? Is she one of those girls that can be universally classified as hideous, or does she just have a few shortcomings that might not turn your brother on? For example, I can't stand women who don't have massive tits. The rest of her can be fine, but unless her body is explicitly declaring that she is suitable for lactating, the only real business I have talking to her involves demanding that she makes me muffins.

(By the way, anything other than lemon poppyseed is for failures.)

[xxazurexx]

If the truth was known, his brother is likely jealous and wants to bang her himself!

[Sonrisa]

For example, I can't stand women who don't have massive tits. The rest of her can be fine, but unless her body is explicitly declaring that she is suitable for lactating, the only real business I have talking to her involves demanding that she makes me muffins.

(By the way, anything other than lemon poppyseed is for failures.)

whoa.......

[kitkitkitty]

your mum's worried she'll take advantage of you in many ways. talk to your gf and tell her that she needs to get her act together. when she's 'in the process' of sorting things tell your mum whats going on. but if your gf keeps saying 'il do it next week'.....hmmm.