Hello Ladies,
I was hoping to get some advice on my situation. If you read my past thread about a year ago you might have an idea what happened.
To make a long story short for the past year or so me and my ex, who is also my coworker, have been friends, and the past few months we have been really close.
Just to mention, back in feburary after getting close she told me she wanted to stop spending time together because she wanted us to move on. One day later she called me and acted as if nothing happened. Then again in May she told me the same thing, but once again after a day she told me she missed my company and asked me to come over and ever since we have been talking every single day and night and spending so much time together. We hung out memorial day weekedn, fourth of july weekend, numerous bbq's, she cooks sometimes and invites me to eat after work, her kids love me and aske me to come over everyday. I recently got a puppy and we go for walks with her and the kids and they all love the dog.
The thing is we are only friends and she wants that to be understood. She is not a big dater, never has been one, but now she says she is looking to date if she meets someone. That hurts me a little. She tells me she cares about my feelings and doesnt want to hurt me. She has been really nice to me lately, cooking for me, going on road trips together, surprising me with little things she knows I like, talking and texting everyday, you would think we are married, lol. It seems like the more she wants to date someone the closer she gets with me. Its confusing.
It was my birthday about a week ago and she told me to come over, when I got there she and her kids had a cake for me with candles and music, they sang for me and she cooked me dinner, it was really nice. Now she wants to take me out for a show and drinks afterwards. She is working on getting a babysitter for tomorrrow night.
Now here is my question: should I try to make a move. I know it sounds crazy because she tells me she only wants to be friends and talks about dating other guys, but what do I have to lose. She was the one to ask me to date a few years ago when we first dated.
I know what most people will say, to forget her and move on. Its not easy because I work with her and live a few blocks away. I also wonder why she gets close to me like this. She doesnt use me and she does alot for me. I know she likes confidence in guys and there was a time when I wasnt overly confident but I feel alot more confident as a person nowadays. So I feel like even tho the chances arent great, it may be possible.
How should I go about this.
Thanks for advice