10 years and loosing my trust in her

[OhioGuy43]

My gf and I have been together 10 years, never married, we both thought leave a good thing alone.

Well, we work different shifts and days, so everyday, one of us is at work. She primarily works weekends. I have taken time off to do things when I could. I have asked her repeatedly to consider taking a day off on the weekend so we may do something with the kids (we have 2) Never has she taken a day off.

A few weeks ago, I had to be out of town for a day (Sunday) She called to say a friend of mine (guy) had stopped to do some work I asked him about out in the back of the yard. I told him if he wanted to go ahead and do it, that was okay with me.

Later, I learn my GF decided to take the day off and hang around the house... this really upset me. About a week later, I am speaking with my guy friend and he tells me she called him after she was off work (10pm) and ask him to meet her because she found something at the store he may like. He agreed to meet her and took a friend because he felt uncomfortable with it.

Well, I knew she was at the store, knew what she was buying, and knew when she was done.... but she never mentioned meeting my friend or buying him something.

She also sent him a simple text a few days after that to tell him some news she read, I also fowarded this news, but to a different friend of mine. I mentioned to her I told "so-n-so" about the news..... again, no mention of her also sending...


I think I should be a little suspicious...... Any comment?

[girl68]

hell YES.

red damn flag!

[Gigabitch]

I agree. Red flag. Confront her about this.

[lahnnabell]

How is she so clueless as to think that your friend wouldn't relay any of this information?

[Gigabitch]

How is she so clueless as to think that your friend wouldn't relay any of this information?

Maybe she's done this many times before with other "friends" and this is the only true friend this guy has.

[Indignant]

and she never took a day off in the last 10 years considering that you have 2 kids?

[OhioGuy43]

She has talked to other friends... even purchased little gifts at time, but has always told me about it.

Right now, I do not think I should confront her. My friend tells me he is going to keep me posted if anything else is said, asked, ect ect.

[OhioGuy43]

and she never took a day off in the last 10 years considering that you have 2 kids?

She took a day or two because she was ill. She only been working for the last 3 years at this job.

[Indignant]

i don't feel comfortable taking days off as well. does she have any vacation/holiday/sick days? same question applies to you

[OhioGuy43]

She works part time, I work full time. I have days and do take them when needed or wanted.

I spend every Friday Saturday and Sunday doing things with the kids...

[Indignant]

what are you complaining about then?

[OhioGuy43]

I am not complaining about that......

[Indignant]

"I have asked her repeatedly to consider taking a day off on the weekend so we may do something with the kids (we have 2) Never has she taken a day off." ?????

[kitkitkitty]

^^ i think it's the fact that the only time in a long time that she's taken off was spent with the OP's friend. that'd bug me.

[Gigabitch]

Right now, I do not think I should confront her.

I can't imagine why not. Are you hoping she's going to offer him a blowjob and you'll have a good reason to get rid of her? If you're concerned about your relationship, DO SOMETHING about this. If you just want to give her enough rope to hang herself, you may as well just split up with her now because you're past the point of caring.