i was gonna say brown and red for rednecks
i was gonna say brown and red for rednecks
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
Hahaha no As far as I remember, Indians are being called a red race .
And Rednecks ... It must be because they are working a lot in the field and get sunburn on their necks - BUT they cover most of their bodies so they get sunburn just on their necks in contrary to red faces. They used to run half naked and got permanent sunburn allover their body - face too of course :p
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Yes, I'm a redskin, and we are the red race. Don't confuse us with the brownies or the blackies.
i've always considered myself a brownie...
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
I can make you a whitie if you want.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
Oh yeah, my bf's friend just left yesterday after 2 weeks of a stay at our flat... FLAT THAT HAS JUST ONE BEDROOM!!
I was irritated and rude towards him all 2 weeks long, but you can understand how uncomfortable it is to live 2 weeks like on a camp... I could clean up but it was dirty and messy 5 minutes after. The worst was when I was coming back from work and he was alone at our flat... WITH CLOSED WINDOWS .Jesus ,he wasn't smelling like flowers , so it was a disaster when I was back home... Well my brother is coming on saturday and stays with us 4 or 5 days... At least it's my brother and I will be able to tell him to KEEP MY ****ING FLAT CLEAN or I'll kill him He will for sure :p He's a clean guy,even takes shower 3 or 4 times a day lol
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This is cultural. I grew up around mostly Asians all my life. It's a completely normal thing for family to crash anywhere for however long they need to (whether there seems to be an emergency or not). Asian families are a lot more tight knit than American families and they can depend on each other for help more without any stigma being attached to it.
I think that you've offended her family on this one. Good luck getting back in to their good graces.
If you can't handle this situation you may not be ready for an inter-cultural relationship.
When we first came to this country, a nice familyof 4 took our family of 4 into a 2 bedroom apartment for almost 6 months till we could get settled. my parents have always taken people in who were new to this country and had no place to stay.
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
By now, you must have noticed that she is very close to her family. Realistically, they are always going to be a big factor in your relationship with her. You need to decide if you can tolerate a lot of future situations that are similar to the current one, and also if you can tolerate her blaming tendencies. I personally wouldn't like it and would break up with her over both the intrusive and meddling family and the blaming thing that she does, but that's just me. My girlfriend is also very close to her family, but she realizes that her family is fairly dysfunctional, so she keeps them away from me and from our apartment, and I really appreciate that.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
Ok, plenty more things to clarify.
I have been in multiculural (thought mostly with Asian women) relationships for the past 10 years. I'm not sure why, because as mentioned by somebody before, many times the control Asians have over their grown kids and the guilt and shame they put them through is too much for me to bear. I feel it's some kind of weird paradox in my life, that I'm attracted to women who's family is probably going to disapprove of me. I'm a very unconventional and independent person...highly value my individuality. Seems this doesn't mesh too well with a lot of Asian culture.
I just can't believe that somebody mentioned that family *never* requires approval...they can just come without consideration for the people who live there?? Family is sacred...and my family would never do this to us. Especially not with this kind of timing. This is not just my gf's place...not just her mother's place. This is OUR place. There are two of us. I want her to think of me as a roommate. A damn important one! Haha...
Boundaries had to be drawn, they need to have some respect. I am not Vietnamese, and her and I are in love. In America. If I can learn to eat chicken feet with chopsticks, they can sure as hell learn to show some respect for somebody from a "different" culture. I'm all for family visits...just keep it respectful, please.
That sounds reasonable to me, but then I'm not the one you will be dealing with. From what you have described, her family is going to be around as much as possible, and they aren't going to get along with you. You should probably acknowledge that this is a dealbreaker and move on, then dig deep to figure out why you keep forcing yourself into this kind of relationship. Years ago, I went through a phase where I mostly just dated asian women, and ultimately none of those relationships really worked out. Maybe I was attracted to the exotic look, and once it became familiar, it wasn't as exciting, so I had to deal with the reality of each relationship. And each relationship wasn't that strong. Maybe if you can step back from having a "type," you can evaluate your relationship more realistically.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.