Is this natural in love?

[Brokenapart]

is this natural in love that your feelings for other person keep rising and falling depending upon the amount of contact you have in b/w both of you?

Is it natural to feel at any stage of relationship that you have lost feelings for other person due to disputes and being in fedup condition as a result you thnk dat you can live without other person n got break up n changed all of your contacts to quit that person completely out of ur life but after few mnths of breakup you realize that ur feelings are back for him/her again?

[Boisdevie]

Interesting point. I was with a woman and after a period of time I could no longer stand her laziness and lack of 'contribution' to our relationship so it ended. Then I thought about the nice stuff and we got back together again until again her failings got on my nerves. Seems very easy when you're apart to think of the nice stuff and forget all the bad stuff.

[Brokenapart]

Boisdevie

i asked this question because it happened in my relationship ,my gf of 3 years after a dispute said "i have no feelings for you" it was out of blue n i was so shocked that i started crying,messed up all the thngs in the whole mnth by continously calling n txting her n thn suddenly she cahnged all of her contacts

so um wondering that is it still possible for her to get her feelings back?even if she dont want them to come back coz i dont thnk we can control feelings when they have to come they will no matter how much you refrain from thnkng positive thngs abt that person


BTW after how long you back togather?

[Mish]

Yeh it's still possible. The real question is whether it should be tolerated? If someone is so impulsive and unstable that they break up at the drop of a dime and then want to get back together 5 minutes later are they really someone you should be with?

[SapphireBerry]

I have this problem as well. It is natural I guess, and natural for it to change levels
on certain days and stuff (like a Gemini) lol. And it's natural to get sick of someone

[Brokenapart]

Yeh it's still possible. The real question is whether it should be tolerated? If someone is so impulsive and unstable that they break up at the drop of a dime and then want to get back together 5 minutes later are they really someone you should be with?

its not 5 minutes its been 1 and a half mnth now lol...actually mistakes were from both sides n resulted in dispute

much of misunderstanding was created by her cousin due to which we kept on fighting every 2nd day finally that thng happened i was completely broken i never knew ths NC rule so messed up everythng finally she got so fed up that changed her contacts never gave me a chance to tell her that it was her cozn's fault...her cozn kept on saying her thngs which i never said

Now i have mailed her frnd a document ,in which all the situation is explained but i wonder whether she will read it or not thats big question

[Brokenapart]

I have this problem as well. It is natural I guess, and natural for it to change levels
on certain days and stuff (like a Gemini) lol. And it's natural to get sick of someone

after getting sick is this normal to change contacts

is there a chance of getting them back? have you got someone in ths situation


how much of tym should i give her