Split up with my boyfriend but I feel relieved - Is this normal?

[gijayne40]

I've just made the decision to break up with my boyfriend.

We were together for 2 1/2 years, and i ended it because it had simply run its course. I will always love him, and i will miss some things about him, but in my heart i know it was the right thing to do.

The strange thing is although I feel a little sad I also feel relieved and not devastated.

On the otherhand my bf is devastated ....i cant help feeling guilty - Is this normal?

We were not getting on for the last 8 months or so and he was never the best bf in the world but i can't stop feeling guilty.

In the time we were together we never cheated on each other and I havent left him for anyone else - I simply want to be on my own.


I just hope this feeling of guilt goes away.

[kitkitkitty]

he's bound to feel devastated if 1. you were together that long and 2. it was you that ended it. you feel cos you can see a person you love very much hurting because of a decision you made. but you had to go by gut instinct and what you felt was right and in the long-run you will have spared a lot more pain and hurt on both of your parts. it's a huge change but feeling relieved should reinforced that it was indeed the right thing to do. you should be proud that you were able to make such a decision and stick to it.

[gijayne40]

Thanks kitkitkitty - I feel so much better now.

I'm sure in time the guilt feeling will just fade away - like you said, I feel bad as i know my ex is hurting and I still care for him deeply.

And I do feel proud that I've finally made the decision to end it and therefore should just progress with life.