hey everyone. so i feel like i'm in a bit of a dilemma.
i used to like this guy for a reall long time but that ended badly as i heard he had been talking really mean **** about me, but acting interested so i didn't even waste my time being angry, just moved on. i was really upset and its still upsetting but i guess everything happens for a reason.

i told myself i wouldn't 'be on the look out' (sounds creepy lol but ykwim) but then i noticed some guy i'm friends with more and more. He’s such a nice, genuine guy, everyone always just talks nie stuff about this guy. So I told my two girl friends, (one of them is going out with this guys bestfriend) and I think they may have made it a bit obvious. My one friend kept asking her boyfriend when the guy I like would be out, and my other friend kept texting him asking if he was out.

Then on Friday, these two girls walked up to the guy I like, and my two friends went over (without me asking them to) and ‘cockblocked’ him hahahaha. After that, I went inside and had a drink with the guy, and we were having a great time, laughing and telling stories. Then when I left, he sat down with my friend and they started talking….

He told her he wasn’t stupid and that he knows she was trying to cockblock him. He seemed quite angry at it as well, and he said that he kind of guessed I was into him, because he made the link. My friends constantly asking about the guy. He said that im really nice and sweet and that he had a nice time talking with me, but (my brother and this guys best friend, HATE each other so so so much) that because of the drama going on between my brother and his best friend, he doesn’t want to get involved in their fight, and that if we were to date he would uninvitedly do so. I feel really upset by this, because ei don’t get involved in my brothers fights with other people.

I’ve told the guy my brother hates that I have no bad feelings towards HIM and that my brothers opinion doesn’t have an effect on how I feel about him. I just don’t know what to do now? To me, it sounds a bit like an excuse, but my friends say it doesn’t at all. Because the guy I like and my girl friend aer good friends, so he would have been honest with her. Im just not sure how to act.. im really insecure, so it feels like talking to him would just be pointless, but my friends to say just act normal and just have fun. They said, he doesn’t know me SO well yet, so just to act normal and how I normally do around him. What do you guys think?? Please help me, it’s really getting to me..

I spoke to my girl friend again today, and she said that he said he would like to get to know me better, but 'right now' with all the drama surrounding my brother and his best friend, that it just wasn't good timing. I keep telling myself I just need to act calm and pretend as if I don't know. Because technically, i'm not supposed to know. Should I just act how I did before? Just jokey and talk about different things? Not bring up my brother and his best friend, and if he brings it up I'll just say i'm not involved at all. Yeah I told my friends to stpo because I know their just trying to help, but it makes me seem desperate and that i NEED him. Don't want him to know that I want him I just feel kind of rejected by this. Like any chance has been blown. Maybe im looking at it in a too pessimistic way, bahh high school-best and worst years of your life.