Just interested and would like to hear opinions. Despite the fact that we live in times of sexual equality I get the impression that for many it is still the job of the guy to ask out the woman. Some women seem to think that if they ask a guy out there are 'desperate' yet if a guy asks out a woman he's not 'desperate"?
I have been asked out by women and feel very flattered.
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20-10-10, 12:32 AM #1
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Who asks who out? Dating and sexual equality?
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20-10-10, 12:43 AM #2
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you were flattered, but did you accept?
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
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Of course I accepted. They might have turned out to be the love of my life.
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20-10-10, 01:18 AM #4
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I have asked out 3 men. All 3 have excepted and 2 turned into 3 year plus relationships one of which I am marrying.
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So you weren't worried about being seen as 'desperate"?
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20-10-10, 01:26 AM #6
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I guess inside yeah maybe... deep down but here's how I see it. I'm decently good looking I guess so even if I got rejected I'm not desperate I'd probably be able to hook some other dudes interest relatively quickly.
But let's just say I was very unattractive, and I was asking out a lot of men... then yes, I might appear (and BE) a little bit desperate but as it stands I'm turning men down more than they are me.
So my answer is yes, and no.
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20-10-10, 01:30 AM #7
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Good for you and I'm glad it's working for you. I'm very interested in the fact that despite we are 'equal' some women find it hard to ask out a man. And yet it could be the perfect person for them.
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20-10-10, 01:39 AM #8
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I think a lot of womens reasons is the assumption about the OTHER side- men. I think it's a fairly true statement to assume that men *do* still enjoy a chase... that said if women ask them out- there isn't a chase!
In my case I recognize this however, when I ask a man out I am not at his mercy. He still must "chase" and by chase I mean more like woo me into believe my choice to apporach first was the right one.
I think this is a case of "what women think men want..." IMO.
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