He won't cyber while I'm on my period? O.o

[Ariadne]

WHAT?! DX
Ok...

1) He doesn't have a problem with me being on my period because he's ****ed other girlfriends IRL when they were on theirs and he had just as much fun as if they weren't. He's also tried to convince me to play with myself despite the blood--in the shower or something--but I said no because it's gross and I feel gross.

2) Even if he DID have a problem with period sex, it's NOT REAL SEX! He doesn't have to really touch me. He won't even let me talk about blowing him or anything.

He says it's because I don't want to play with myself while I'm on my period. He doesn't want to get off when I can't. I tried to express to him that I don't mind AT ALL because I'd rather he get off with me than to go look at porn or possibly talk to someone else. But he says he wouldn't do that (which as far as the porn is concerned I'm just like yeah right =_=) and he doesn't mind waiting a week until it's over. Which is really sweet of him to say but it still makes me feel rejected and... ugh. Should I be worried about this? Or am I just overreacting? Is there anything I could do to convince him that it's ok for him to be selfish? o_o;

[girl68]

You're having "period" reation. So in laymans terms: yeah, you're over reacting.

If he doesn't want to don't force him. My guy doesn't like it but I want some loving. I get with myself during the week. When the week is over we bone like crazy.

[Ariadne]

Yeah I guess. Thing is that I don't wanna do it for my sake, I want to for his. Well both of ours I guess. It's not like I'm just that horny, but I know HE is and I don't want him to have to go to other sources to satisfy him once a month.

[girl68]

Ok you're just going to have to trust me when I say I more than fully understand what you're saying in that respect.

But really before you came along he did that every day, now it's only a few times a month. I think he's still pretty happy. Jerking off by yourself every once in a while is selfish and wonderful- leave him to it. Ever thought that sometimes we all me and you included like to do a little self indulgance without having to think about another person? I sure as hell do! Your bf does to, and so should you! So basically, RELAX.

BTW- there is only 1 other source... and thats porn. If he isn't a cheater, he isn't a cheater. Just let him be once a month.

[Ariadne]

Ok I didn't think about it like that. Thank you. I'll back off. The porn thing squicks me out a bit--I have pretty extreme views on what cheating is--but for some reason it bothers me a lot less with him than with other people I've dated.

I have another question now, though. x_x;

So last night we kind of got into about it. Not exactly a fight, but there was some tension when he turned me down and I got upset and instead of telling him how bad I felt I just kind of...um...left. Should I apologize about that? I'm just not sure if it'd be a good idea to bring it up again, or if I should just let it go and prove I'm sorry by not pushing him about it anymore.

[girl68]

How would you feel if he wronged you and instead of coming to you and telling you he was wrong he never does, and hopes you just forget about it? Not good right? Good. Apologize.

[Ariadne]

Right ok I thought so too. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't having another "period" reaction and over thinking the situation. Thank you again ^_^

[girl68]

Apologize first for walking out. Then tell him why you reacted so badly and what makes you feel like that but express your understanding of how it's all good that people need to have their alone time and that it's all good.