Can A Womaniser with a list of history ever change?

[humili]

Broke up with my lover of three years!

He is a self declared womaniser. Two times married, now 49. Opps! I am 16 years his junior!

Oh, educated in the west and worked in the airlines, he basically is too well travelled and exposed.

How can I believe he loved me when he said I LOVE YOU!

How can I believe when he continue flaunting his past love stories to me?

And remained so distance and passionate at the same time?

Or am i just a tool he made use to show off his ego?

Anyway , we broke up and bcos i invested feelings in this love and I wanted to know if this man ever loved me before.

[Gribble]

Pretty sure at 49 he's set in his ways. A younger man can certainly change, and they often do. I'm convinced many of our fathers were a lot worse than we'd care to think. But 49? I do believe he's set in his ways. Move on.

[Crystal99]

I highly doubt it. At 49 no way. His ex wives probably left him for this same reason. Provide some more details on his womanising. Did you catch him with someone?

I have something posted, so please help me out too:-) It's 'are these signs a man is interested?" in Ask a Male. Thanks.

[Poetic_Partner]

"...I wanted to know if this man ever loved me before..."
Really, how can we know if he ever loved you?

"...How can I believe he loved me when he said I LOVE YOU..."
We don't know and, if you don't trust him, neither do you. Not knowing doesn't mean 'no' and it doesn't mean 'yes'.

"...And remained so distance and passionate at the same time?..."
I don't really understand what you mean by this. Do you mean physically passionate but emotionally not there? If so, it sounds like insecurity or fear to me.

As to whether he can change - I highly doubt it. Twice married and a self-described womanizer pretty much sums it up. Doesn't sound like he was dishonest with you about that, but rather that you two are incompatible.

-PP

[Infern0]

Why do you want to date some old has been.

from the description, the guy is obviously a loser.

Get someone a bit nearer your own age.

[xxazurexx]

I agree ^^

Why settle for a shrivelled beefburger, when there is steak to be had?

Get yourself out there and find some young stud.

How can I believe when he continue flaunting his past love stories to me? ...

He neither loves nor respects you.

He's an old 'has been'' ..

[thundersw]

He can only change to womanize some more and beat some records.
I guess you were one more on the check list.
*check*

Get a man your age!

[YouAreBeautiful]

It is possible that he does love you but will not leave behind his womanizing ways. I think when there is some kind of addiction or internal complication a person can love you and want to change but not be able to without extra help. The love is no guarantee of fidelity, just be aware of that. Check out this article Why do men cheat on women [url=http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Do-Men-Cheat-on-Women?&id=5174910]Why Do Men Cheat on Women?[/url]

[LanaUK]

My boyfriend was so lovely at the start of our relationship. He would nearly always do the cooking for example. The Paella dish he made on our initial dates was really lovely. Then as things became more serious he was always up making breakfast in the morning, like porridge with maple syrup and experimenting with pancakes (adding banana and blueberries into the mix).
We would go on long walks together all around london. In general he was so attentive and caring that I couldn't understand how someone so amazing and funny could still be single (he just turned 35 this month). He was always on the phone, jovial and bantering with friends, especially those at home in Ireland.
He's got his issues, we all do. One eye is significantly higher than the other and he has very badly acne-scarred skin which I thought might have hindered his luck with the ladies. He doesn't ever drink alcohol so going out at night socialising was not really his cup of tea. He swears like a trooper constantly, being Irish he kind of gets away with that. Loves betting on horse races.
His mother dying 3 years ago hit him really hard and I'm no expert but he may not have dealt with his grief properly. For someone who is so religious it was always a bit strange he was anti-marriage.
In the last few months of our relationship he began acting differently towards me. Disrespectful wouldn't really cover it, but I made excuses for him as I was in love. With hindsight I now think he was trying to get me to break up with him. That way I guess he leaves a trail of pining exes that several months down the line he can tap.
When we did eventually break up and I was in tears he said 'All women are stupid'.
Well we're not, it's just a shame that sometimes people have to learn things the hard way.
If any of this seems familiar go with your gut and don't assume he's as nice as you. Don't get involved. I have no proof he was cheating but I think he just moves on from one relationship to another and there are no exceptions.

[IncognitoSir]

7 moth old thread.......why?