Cheating Wife... what to do?

[RdHrshyKss]

^^^i love posts that are short and sweet like that...too bad i'm horrible at it

i'd still personally just end it, because i think she's treated you bad enough. but if you really want to try to make it work, damn's advice is pretty solid.

[Kaius]

Im sorry to hear such sadness. This must be painful. But I think it's a blessing in disguise.
You found the truth before you had children with her. You learned to forgive, but you shouldn't trust her anymore.
If her heart is with someone else, why torture yourself? There is no turning back. Marriages don't survive after such betrayal.
You need to divorce her. Sorry.

[Mish]

She comes to the hotel room and tells me that she was planning on telling me that she wanted a divorce but after seeing me she wants to work things out. She ends up staying at the hotel with me but I couldn't even cuddle with her for longer than 5 minutes because I kept thinking about her and him. The next morning we start talking and she still wants to work things out. She promises that she will change this time. She wasn't thinking about actually losing me and she doesn't want that to happen. I tell her that she has to talk to the co-worker and tell him that everything is over. She says that she will but when I tell her that she should tell him that it was a mistake she says that she can't. She claims that she doesn't want to bring up the past with him. I don't think that she thinks that it was a mistake. I asked her and she wouldn't answer the question.

Before you help me decide what to do remember that I love this woman. I have been through everything with this woman. I forgave her the first time and I am willing to forgive her this time. My question is, should I give her another chance? Will I ever be able to trust her again? If she did it once will she do it again when times get hard? What should my next move be? Thank you for reading this and I hope you all have a wonderful day.

I agree with Azure on this one. Forgiving the act of cheating is not the same as trusting again. When you say that you couldn't hug her for longer than 5 minutes I think it's a good indication as to which way the relationship from here might go even if the two of you decide to stay. This will be a very a difficult decision either way, but if the two of you don't have kids together the question is, is it really worth it?

[Confused81]

I had a cheating ex that I forgave time and time again because he promised he loved me and that he would change. They never change.

[sweetkissesforu]

You will never be able to trust her once a a cheat always a cheat