How long do you wait?

[sunny72]

When you are young and have your first relationship/s, you often wait for a while until you finally have sex.

Getting older, I'd say most people end up in bed straight away (or at least during the first few dates). Just wondering whether some of you still wait a few weeks or even months until you have sex with a new partner.

[flame]

I have 2 criteria.

1. Not on 1st date.
2. When it feels right.

In my experience it just develops naturally once both partners are comfortable enough with each other....

[LaydeeSarah]

still a vitgin and staying until im 100% sure im with the right person.....maybe until i get married

[abercromqt20]

flame is on the same page as me. i really have no criteria for it. except for not on the first date, or second probably. but after that whenever it feels right. atleast this applies to the ones i want to keep around!

[unMorph]

Even I will make my dates wait for sex. What I do is look for qualities in them that will make the sex safe and fulfilling. Look for trustworthiness, emotional maturity, sensitivity to your needs, open to physical affection (hugging, flirtatious touching, cuddling...I won't have sex with anyone who isn't going to give me the post-orgasm cuddle! >_<) and last but certainly not least...good hygiene! Of course, insert or remove whatever points you desire to make your 'checklist'. It could take days, weeks or months to verify all the points. Kinda depends on how open the other person is.
Don't rush into sex. Not just for the STDs that everyone is so concerned about...but also, the sex itself will probably be a let down. If you still have doubts, you won't feel able to let go and just enjoy yourself.

[kanzaki]

sex? For me....the 3rd day

[blue]

Dam the thir day? ok ok i cant say that it hasnt happened to me that way but whatever happened to the 3 week rule? lol
i duuno after the 2nd date is good forr me.

[Fawn]

I agree with many of the above. Not on the first date... and only once I've done it on the second date (but i was really horny.lol).

[kanzaki]

not actually sex. But kinda making out. clothes off. XP

[abercromqt20]

I agree with many of the above. Not on the first date... and only once I've done it on the second date (but i was really horny.lol).

It's ok Fawn..... we have all been there! Oh the memories!

[sunny72]

I agree with #2.

Probably I wouldn't do it on the first date. And anything else just happens. Can't imagine to wait for weeks or months though.

[Fawn]

It's ok Fawn..... we have all been there! Oh the memories!

ahhh ... yes.. what great memories they are