Ladies...

[manlystanly]

why does the giving of oral sex come to a screeching halt once the relationship has become..."comfortable"?

All long term relationships I've been in, the women have never vocalized an issue with oral sex but sure enough once it gets to that 1 year mark I stop getting head. I never push for it, never even ask for it, I make sure they know I DO enjoy receiving and I even continue to go down on them. I like oral sex, giving and receiving, theres just something about being able to focus entirely on satisfying my partner that I truly enjoy. But I don't feel its fair to give, give, give...

[sarahprincess]

I say quit giving her the oral then. Maybe she'll get the hint. And believe me, not everyone stops after the 1 year mark.

[Raven_Skye]

I agree, you've nto been lucky till now then. I was in a 7 year relationship and i kept giving him oral sex (because I loved doing it) right up until he decided to dump me for this other girl. Go figure.

[xxazurexx]

Because I suppose some people can get lazy in relationships - they feel they don't have to work at keeping you happy anymore. I've heard a few jokes along the lines that women give bj's until they are married, then they after they get the ring, they stop' - but it's probably some guy in same boat as you that made the joke up, lol....

I wouldn't generalise all women to be that way, we aren't all selfish

[manlystanly]

Well, we've been having problems in other areas of the relationship too, plus her life is full of stress now from other things. I did say something the other day though cause its not just the oral thats disappeared, sex is tapering off to once in a ten day period and I don't even get foreplay...nothing to get me going. She said its because I'm always hard as soon as our clothes come off and she didn't feel like she needed to. I told her that just because I'm hard doesn't mean I don't like to be touched and stuff.
Gosh! Sex isn't the most important thing to me, but I DO like to feel wanted...anymore it feels like she's just being willing...she is never even wet until I do things to get her going-which isn't just neck kissing I actually have to go down on her and massage her clit and everything...

[Applesauce]

girls like this exist? lol

[girl68]

Umm yeah in all my relationships OK, only 2 but they are 4 and 5 years now, my lovers continued to get head.

[Applesauce]

^^^ as you should. Guys love getting head

[xxazurexx]

Yeah well if sex is tapering off now, imagine five years down the line and if she's your wife.

Still...you guys seem happy to be with frigid, whining moaners and naggers with loads of issues and chips on their shoulders a mile high.

Good luck to ya.

[manlystanly]

yes indeed, I have wondered what life will be like in a few years with her. She used to be just a friend, like for 14 years minus a few in the middle cause she was off to school and my wife had issues with me keeping a female friend.

I don't have to stay if I'm unhappy, do I?

[xxazurexx]

^Nope....

Life is too short and to remain in a miserable and unhappy situation.

[girl68]

^^^ as you should. Guys love getting head

I "should", screw that. If either one of them ever expressed my giving as a "duty" they can suck their own dick because I sure as hell wouldn't. I give because I'm kind if my giving is taken for granted I will no longer give.

[girl68]

I don't have to stay if I'm unhappy, do I?

Umm no, you don't

[manlystanly]

that was really more of a rhetorical question.

[girl68]

OK then you know your answer- lots of women willingly give years and years into a relationship. If you're unhappy now... as one poster said- it gets WORSE.