Ecojeanne I am a big fan of Susie Orman and know in this situation what she would say. I think you are very wise to want to protect your assets. If you do want to get married, perhaps offer him a prenuptial agreement. Keep your funds separate. Let him know those are your conditions. It will be hurtful to him, however if his initial reaction is anger and rage you will be right about your guy feelings, you don't want to be with him. If takes it ok, says he'll think about it, and is somewhat visibly upset then that may be a normal reaction of hurt pride. However I do not like the fact that you are saying this man keeps pressuring you to marry him. A man should not pressure a woman. He should ask, maybe talk about it, not try to force her into it.