So confused

[AnonFrank]

I'll start by saying sorry for such a long post. So I dated a girl for three years and was the most amazing time of my life. Perfect girl for me and couldn't believe when we broke up. A few months passed and she randomly called me and we talked for awhile and she wanted to get back together. At the time I was with someone new and decided that they deserved a chance that she had wasted, this turned out to be a nightmare, but that's another tail.

A few years pass and I end up talking to her again after I was single. She had married some guy she had only known a short time and we talked for a good while again. She kept complaining about stuff which I kept telling her she should end it then and not prolong it. She doesn't listen and keeps saying she wants her marriage to work etc etc. Now in the process she ended up meeting me a couple of times just to see each other. Two times we ended up sleeping together as well. Each time we meet she would immediately get and attitude after I left and come up with some reason to "run away" and would stay "gone" for a few months.

Well on one of her last fits of leaving after we seen each other she apparently started getting some attention from some guy at work. This quickly led to her divorce and soon was living with this new guy. This of course angered me as the whole reason we didn't try to patch things up was "she wasn't ready to give up on her marriage" and "scared to be alone".

A few months pass and I get a message again and we talk for awhile. We decide to meet up and hang out for a bit. She kept rubbing my leg and we kissed several times. We had a good kiss before I left as well. Sure enough, right after I left she seemed distant. After a day or so I finally just asked what was up, and she said nothing everything is fine, she just needs time to think, she loves him, wants to make it work, blah blah. After probing more and more she finally sent me a message in the middle of the night saying "look I had to meet you and kiss you to see if I still felt anything and I felt nothing". Needless to say I felt a knife through my heart. I didn't reply and that was that.

Now what confused me about this is that she had to see if she felt something, but even after several decent length kisses she was rubbing my leg and brought up getting the kiss before I left. Fast forward a few months and now we have started talking again. What is up with this girl it's driving me insane?

[MerryH]

Oh man. Why are you still talking to her? You do seem a little insane to be going back for more of her bullshit. What good can come from speaking to her now? Stop being the guy that she comes to for a quick **** when she's bored with her boyfriends/husbands.