Any Hope for an Ugly Chick?

[doppelgaenger]

So then what's with the who cares if you're great, if you're ugly you're screwed attitude? What the hell is wrong with be yourself?

There is nothing wrong with my attitude.

[doppelgaenger]

am i a shallow person? my last 3 sexual partners were way hotter than me. i am nothing but average looking. why you say? physical attraction. it won't last, but it will get you laid.

You're not average looking. You're very attractive, and you have a nice personality to go with it. Not shallow at all.

[girl68]

There is nothing wrong with my attitude.

you did imply that we're all wrong for telling her it's cool to be yourself.

[Sonrisa]

it's not "cool" to be yourself. a person has to always work on making "herself" better.

[OldMenRock]

Self-confidence is the most powerful aphrodisiac out there. How you paint the outside won't matter much at all if the inner glow is bright. Work on your self- esteem. Go to a gym, jog, start swimming, volunteer in a nursing home... start stocking up on self-worth points and forget spending money on makeup and clothes.

I'd rather have a self-assured lady in faded blue jeans who walks with a limp than any "10" who can't hold eye contact with me for more than 30 seconds without giggling.

My two cents.

[Regnent]

Your picture doesn't hit me as ugly. That being said, the more you fret about your own looks, the more you will turn guys off.
You will find someone who thinks your beautiful, but it's a lot easier when you aren't questioning their sincerity because you've decided otherwise.
You need to be confident about yourself. Many guys (aside from many abusive ones), really don't want a woman with low self esteem.

[doppelgaenger]

it's not "cool" to be yourself. a person has to always work on making "herself" better.

at least one other person understands what i'm talkin about.

[Regnent]

it's not "cool" to be yourself. a person has to always work on making "herself" better.

Erg, define better.
That statement leave me a little.. anxious.

[red_sparrow]

well, some girls would get turned on by a guy walking into a room with a 6-pack, nice hair and a tight shirt. I won't lie. I'd get mildly attracted -- maybe for a few seconds.

But in walks in some forlorn stranger with five oclock shadow, a bit of a gut and a Pink Floyd t-shirt. I'm sold. and for all of these new agers, CHEST HAIR IS NICE. it means they're a man, and not some rubber metrosexual.

[red_sparrow]

that's completely true!

[thundersw]

at least one other person understands what i'm talkin about.

I've following some posts and let me say that your point of view is not totally correct. Why?
Because, as you say, looks is the most IMPORTANT factor. Wrong!
If you think a little you are indeed attracted to your male friends, you sure hang out with them, talk to them, share moments with them. I doubt you are VISUALLY attracted to them, that would make you a lot gay. You're attracted to their personalities.
And if you make analogies of girls/relationships with mechanical craps I can only wonder how you treat them or how much they respect you. Sex is not love anyone with money can have sex, but not everyone with money can have love/passion.

Now about about the original post, you're not bad, I've seen a lot of uglier girls and you don't fit in ugly.
Maybe you should use some blue eye shadowing, seems to fit you right and your hair is nice. Some girls may give you advices about makeup and cloths though. You seem average to me in that pic.

[Regnent]

and not some rubber metrosexual.

I call em Mandy's.

[red_sparrow]

I call em Mandy's.

lmao. why mandys?

[Incognito]

it's not "cool" to be yourself. a person has to always work on making "herself" better.

at least one other person understands what i'm talkin about.

There is a night and day difference between being making yourself more physically attractive and bettering yourself. The latter typically involves improving oneself in ways much deeper than appearance. I think what sonrisa was saying was that it is not cool to be complacent and accept what you do as "me" and say "well this is how I am" without ever trying to improve or change.

Sure that can be applied to appearance as well, but that hardly seems grounds to elevate physical attractiveness over all else when deciding who we will enter a relationship with (and for the vast majority of people in working relationships physical attractiveness isn't THE most important factor).

[red_sparrow]

Okay, i saw your picture and i think either

1. You really think you're OK-looking and are just looking for approval / compliments
2. You haven't seen REAL ugly people (as I have)