Question re taken girl

[ukguy2011]

Ok, I'm probably going to get complained at for this thread. Please don't, I only seek advice and I've spent far too long being 'the good guy' and suffering for it.

For those who don't want to read the entire thing (though it'd be best if you do): I like a girl who I've known for several years but she has a boyfriend. We're going to the cinema (alone) together. What do I do?

There's this girl (girl a) thatl I've been 'casual' friends with (that is to say, I don't keep in contact as often as I should) forr the past 4-5 years. When I first met her, I sensed she liked me and I liked her back but also liked another girl (girl b, I liked her a bit more) who was going to be attending the same university as me. As it was, I asked the other girl out and was with her for a couple of years. During my relationship with girl b, girl a got a boyfriend who she's still with now.

Anyway, I'm single and she isn't. She's recently started talking to me a lot more, started putting "x" in chat where she didn't used to and seemed interested in seeing me again. Well, until she and her boyfriend reached the 3 year point in their relationship. She hasn't been online so much since and has stopped putting "x"s in chat, etc. Anyway, I've always regretted not pursuing a relationship with her, even while I was with my ex (girl b), and if anything, I'm more interested in her now as she has become more mature in the past year or so and has started to dress in a way which I believe to be more attractive.

Anyway, we're both back in our home town for christmas and we've agreed to meet up tomorrow to go to the cinema. My question is, do I have a chance with her? Can I win her over? Should I even try?

Essentially, what should I do?

[VincenzoG91]

You're getting together because you're both going to be in your home town for Christmas? Does this mean that the hypothetical relationship would be long-distance after Christmas? Long-distance relationships are generally a bad deal. Aren't there any other women you can go after?

[ukguy2011]

You're getting together because you're both going to be in your home town for Christmas? Does this mean that the hypothetical relationship would be long-distance after Christmas? Long-distance relationships are generally a bad deal. Aren't there any other women you can go after?

It would be after christmas but trains do exist, I guess. As for other women, there are but I've always been interested in her and if I do have a chance, I'd rather not miss it.

[damn2010]

You don't really have a chance. There's a reason you're not her boyfriend and maybe she thinks of you as a friend.

Then again, maybe she is losing interest in her boyfriend and is getting interested in you. If that is the case, just play it cool, have fun and make sure that you tease and joke with her. She'll remember fun times with you but you also have to make sure you keep busy with your own stuff and don't pass up any other girls!!!

[ukguy2011]

You don't really have a chance. There's a reason you're not her boyfriend and maybe she thinks of you as a friend.

Then again, maybe she is losing interest in her boyfriend and is getting interested in you. If that is the case, just play it cool, have fun and make sure that you tease and joke with her. She'll remember fun times with you but you also have to make sure you keep busy with your own stuff and don't pass up any other girls!!!

I suppose you're right. Thank you for your advice!