You shouldn't go for someone who is taken. Don't you understand why you are attracted to certain girls? It's in our biology to be physically attracted to women who are unattainable.
EVERY girl i meet is taken by some form of asshole already.
Your problem is that the girls that you choose to meet are taken. You immediately refer to them as an "asshole" because you are jealous of them. How do you really know that said person is an "asshole"? You are finding excuses as to why you are meeting girls that are taken. If a girl is attractive, yes, she will probably a boyfriend. However, not all attractive girls have boyfriends. It seems like you are going after the same girls with the same personalities. You are going after girls who have trouble telling the difference between aggressiveness and assertiveness.
They are not attracted to you because you are desperate for them. Girls can sense this a mile away. They don't want someone who is desperate for them right off the bat. Desperation is a red flag because it recommends that you have certain genes that are not wanted (biology).
i guess im sorry to burden everyone here with my useless posts because no one actually denies that *hey! girls sorta like ok guys...*
Girls want confident guys. Hell, everyone wants someone confident in a relationship. By just reading this, I can tell that you have low self-esteem. No one wants to be with someone with such low self-esteem. Why? It is a doorway to possible addiction to drugs or alcohol. It can lead to cheating. Women want stability. You are not stable yet because you are so damn depressed.
so i guess it just proves it. if i want to get girls, im guna have to be an asshole and treat them like dirt, or die lonely(which is probably whats gonna happen anyway...)
Wrong. If you treat them like dirt, chances are they are going walk away or treat you like dirt right back. You have this mindset that girls are instantly attracted to assholes. WRONG. A girl isn't going to immediately fall in love with you; it doesn't happen. You need to show that you are a catch instead of something that can be considered trash (no offense).
You keep flaunting that you are a nice guy like it's some sort of label. What are you getting out of labeling yourself as a nice guy? NOTHING. You are just holding yourself back with this label. It prevents you from being a confident person. You are using it as some sort of crutch.
What do you say to girls? "Hey, how's it going. I'm a nice guy." You're not going to get bonus points from anyone from saying you're a nice guy. Your screen name tells me that you are labeling yourself as a nice guy in hopes of winning someone's heart. That isn't going to happen.
Last edited by Raze; 06-01-11 at 05:12 AM.
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