Its impossible to be just friends with opposite sex beyond college

[gasperm3]

I have just realized, and I am very dissapointed to realize that its impossible as a single male to be friends with a female in a relationship if your beyond your college years. If your in college its a different story because you can hang out with your guy friends and meet up with other girls who are with their boyfriends at the same time. However, beyond college its totally different.

If your in the real world and you meet a person of the opposite sex, sure you might be able to get a dinner with that person on one or two different occasions, but after that, you get to a point where you dont have anything to talk about and everybody just wants to hang out and have fun. Well the male or female who is in a relationship has their sex partner (boyfriend) to spend their weekends with. They will not even consider hanging out with their buddy of the opposite sex because it would apparently be awkward for the 3 of them together.

Sure you can chat online once in a while. But after a while you run out of things to talk about, and all there is left to do with that person would be hang out. But if your in the real world its not going to happen unless you get a sex partner as well and you go on a double date.

This is really disapointing, there are a lot of fun people out there

[curly1118]

What the Hell are you even talking about? Are you seriously THAT boring that you run out of things to talk about? You must live in a tiny, tiny world. I honestly don't even know what you're asking here.

By the way, I'm pretty sure if I had a girlfriend she would want to hang out with me rather than some guy who is single and wanting to get some "more than friendship" attention. Although that isn't always the case, I would be somewhat disappointed if my girlfriend had time to spend with me on the weekends and chose to spend it with another guy who is also single. That just wouldn't sit right.

[MerryH]

Yeah, I'm not really understanding you either. Or maybe I am, but you're just totally wrong about most of what you posted.

It is completely possible to be friends with a girl who is taken. I see it happen all the time. But if you have a romantic interest in the girl, then yeah it's harder. Maybe impossible, I'll give you that. If it's awkward to hang out with the two of them, that's usually the fault of the one person with feelings. And, as mentioned before, if you run out of things to talk about, perhaps you're boring. Or the two of you just don't connect for whatever reason. These problems are easily solved by not befriending a girl who is taken/you don't connect with.

Go meet some fun (single) people.

[gasperm3]

I really find it hard to believe you can be friends with someone of the opposite sex if there in a relationship. Sure facebook friends maybe. If you run into each other in the grocery store you can say hi and chit chat for a couple minutes as friends. But to me, if you live in the same town as this so called friend, and you do not communicate at all for months, I dont consider that as a TRUE friendship. My true friends are people who I communicate with on a weekly basis. Some one who cares about whats going on in my life. A true friend is someone who you hang out with on the weekends and invite with to do stuff. That is a friendship.