Depressed, Confused, and dont know what to do.

[Horseyguy]

Well sort of good except I'm very confused, so many mixed messages.

And when I take everything into account including what she has told me about past relationships I can't help but get this feeling that I should just move on and get over her.

At the end of the day she is no longer in this relationship, I can see that clearly. She wants me to keep contacting her incase she decides later that she wants to get back in it.

So I'm really feeling like I'm moving towards a fall back option for her and if something better comes up that will be that.

Maybe I'm wrong, maybe she does really love me, wants to be with me as she says and just needs some time to deal with these issues of hers, but ...... I dunno

When you love someone and want to be with them, you turn to them, not push them away and say you don't really know if you want to be together, yes I do, no I don't, yes I do, I just said that because I was scared, I don't want t lose you, just give me a few weeks, Happy Valentines I love you.

Anyway I'm off to see a counsellor today so maybe they can help kick me on the right path because this is doing my head in

[Horseyguy]

Oh but on the upside.

Realising a lot of this and working it through in my head has helped heaps.

Now I accept it's over, and that means I can deal with it and that's what I've been doing this last couple of days.

HAD BREAKFAST THIS MORNING!!!!! and slept good last night. And I've not had any contact from her since yesterday morning and ya know what, it's not hurting

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah... im learning to be happy with myself and things will fall into place. i was OK without her before we met and will be after

[Horseyguy]

Yay! Now you're talking