Attempt to get back with GF of 4.5 years

[Ollie76]

Hello Everyone,

Long story short, my GF of 4.5 years ended our relationship after a small fight that triggered some thoughts that I no longer show enough affection for her. She is the type of person that requires contant emotional expressions of love by me and I guess I wasn't doing enough. We had a great relationship with some minor hiccups along the way, nothing major.

So, it's been a week since the break up and I have have ititiated no contact, I have not contacted her or vice versa. Now, I want her back!! Valentines Day is approaching and I'm thinking of breaking no contact by sending her roses (nothing major- by then it'll be two week of NC). Is this a good idea? I really want us to work things out since I'm willing to adjust to her needs and I dont want to screw things up. Are the roses a good idea? Pease HELP!!

[DarkHelmet82]

I think so.. a week of no contact should suffice... or you can wait till after vday she may miss you more.. I think you should send her flowers... good idea

[Kaius]

But what if she ended relationship so she could be with someone else? Is that impossible?

[DarkHelmet82]

how often do rebounds work..

[Ollie76]

True, I'm sure she's working on getting over me right now by meeting other guys and I can deal with that. Heck, thats what girls do regardless if they're not over their ex or not. Who knows? I just want her back! I refuse to flush this relationship down the toilet if I know it can be fixed. I just hope she feels the same.

[DarkHelmet82]

hey can you check out my post tell me what u think?

[Ollie76]

Darkhelmet82, I will check it out.

[hello1]

No contact is bad as she properly thinks you don't care! contact her now!

[Boisdevie]

Roses will not work. You need to work out why your relationship did not work and a bunch of flowers will not address that problem. She sounds like a control freak to me

[DarkHelmet82]

yeah i agree. I think you should forget valentines day and wait till Feb 16th or later. Being alone on Vday may forcer her hand. Although it may not. The thing is she broke up due to lack of affection... soooo flowers might actually work in this situation as well as contacting her before valentines.......

[Ollie76]

Ok, so she received the flowers after two weeks of NC. She sent me a text saying "Thank you for the roses. They are so beautiful"

Now what?? What should be the next move? I haven't replied yet.

[MerryH]

Ok, so she received the flowers after two weeks of NC. She sent me a text saying "Thank you for the roses. They are so beautiful"

Now what?? What should be the next move? I haven't replied yet.

Say, "You're welcome. Can I take you out for dinner tonight?"

[DarkHelmet82]

well she would be a total bitch if she didnt even say thanks for the flowers even if she didnt want to get back with you BUT i think you guys will get back together... good luck.. let us know how it goes

[MerryH]

well she would be a total bitch if she didnt even say thanks for the flowers

No, she wouldn't.

[Ollie76]

Well, not she if I played it right but we exchanged a few texts. I replied "you are welcome. I'm glad you like them. How are you?". Then, she replied "Eh, I'm okay I guess. I have my ups and downs. How are you?".

Me: "you are welcome. I'm glad you like them. How are you?"

Her: "Eh, I'm okay I guess. I have my ups and downs. How are you?".

Me: "I'm doing pretty good. Thanks for asking"

Thats it. I'm still debating on my next move. So mindboggling!!!!